sweetpeas and sunshine

We've Moved

2009-10-25T12:38:00.000-05:00

Come check out our new blogspot at

http://thetalesfromthesandbox.blogspot.com

See you there!

When it rains it pours...

2009-10-10T22:24:00.002-05:00

I should have known when I woke up to snow on my grass on Oct the 10th that it wasn't a good sign.

It has been quite the week. On Monday, the beta fish died...not a huge loss, but a loss none the less. On Wednesday, we had to put our dog Murphy down. He was a wonderful golden retriever whom we loved dearly. We had 7 good years with him, but he became sick with what we think was a brain tumor. Z man took it the hardest and cried more tears than I thought one 9 year old could hold. It broke my heart. The house is much calmer without the big dog (110 lbs) eating off the counter, peeing on the floor, and having seizures....but it just feels empty.

Then tonight, daddy comes down with the flu...and we notice that Z-man's bunny is not looking so good in the bunny hutch. So while daddy is sick upstairs, mommy is trying to calm a distraught 9 year old (who can't understand why every pet he gets dies)...nurse a dying bunny back to life (fervent prayers, syringes of water, pleading, and cussing didn't work)all while keeping track of the 2 year old who is dumping salt from the salt shaker all over the floor. A slapped together meal of cheese sticks, apples, strawberries, applesauce and crackers is flung to the table while we keep bunny watch. We manage to get a little dinner in, until the wails of the 9 year old break my heart yet again, as dear Alvin the bunny has gone. Hugs and tears...dinner to clean up. Then the kitchen sink backs up...icky water every where...daddy sick in bed...9 year old crying...dead bunny in back porch...mommy laughing on the inside at the absurdity of her life!

It is now 10:35, I am composing myself out here in the blogosphere and trying to figure out where to sleep. My bed is full of sick husband...Sunshine's bed is full of Sunshine and sad big brother...sounds like mommy gets a couch somewhere.

But first, I have to check on the puppy I found on Pet Finder...I think he could fill the gap left by Murphy and Alvin and the Beta! Now if only we could convince dad.....

Oh the joy...NOT

2009-09-29T19:28:00.003-05:00

Well, we are now a CDC statistic. We have succumb to the flu that shall not be named. The B-man came down with it yesterday and today, his big brothers have joined him...though not quite to his extent. B has been running a temp hovering around 104...too high for my taste...all day. It is so sad to see him so sluggish and fever-loopy. His older brothers both lazed on the couch all day, not eating (very unheard of in this house !) and the oldest even napped for 2 hours. The princess seems to have come down with a case of the terrible twos...timing it just right as mama is running up and down the stairs taking temps, doling out gator-aid, and bathing in hand sanitizer! She has been a demanding little diva all day, which unfortunately leads me to believe that she is probably coming down with something as well.

It is also looking like we will have to put our big ole golden retriever to sleep in the coming days. He isn't that old, but has seizures, is getting aggressive,and has ruined the basement carpet. He has no quality of life and it is breaking all of our hearts.

So, joyful we are not...but thankful to have several tv's...a large stock of ibuprophen and tylenol and a few days to lay with our big old dog, giving him a little more love while he is still with us.

One Year Ago

2009-09-12T16:59:00.003-05:00

One year ago today...

I didn't know my heart could hold so much love.

I discovered the sweet spot between Sunshine's ear and shoulder.

Watched as my daughter reached out and touched her hand on my face with a look of "At last, we are together".

I saw her smile for the first time.

I felt my heart sing as she reached for me instead of her nanny.

I didn't know if she would be able to walk, talk, or overcome the obstacles of malnutrition, and I didn't care.

I knew my family was complete.

Today I have a sparkly, sweet and amazing daughter who...

can count to 5

runs instead of walks

sings a lullaby to her babies every night.

loves pretties in her hair.

is adored by so many.

is healthy, medication free, and thriving.

has stolen more hearts than I can count.

story has convinved at least 1 other family to start a similar journey.

can throw a tantrum with the best of them.

gives the best kisses and hugs in all of the world.

Happy Gotcha Day my sweet, sweet girl!

New Beginnings, Old Memories

2009-09-10T20:38:00.003-05:00

We are back in the saddle again. Yeehaw! I LOVE routine. I LOVE knowing where my kids are, that they are learning something valuable and not sitting in front of a TV, Wii, or the like! I love that they all had a good day, with only a few minor glitches along the way. And mostly I love that they will be going back tomorrow!

It was a successful start to the new season. Everyone truly likes their new teachers (couldn't have hand picked them any better) and even the Diva did better in daycare today. Ahhh sigh of relief! I am actually loving my new job at the preschool and really enjoying not having worry following me around anymore. I truly think we could be in for a great fall!

A year ago, right this moment, I was sitting on a plane bound for Africa. I can't believe it has already been a year. Of course it also feels like Sunshine has been with us forever. I so wish I could tell her Ethiopia family what a wonderful little girl they created. I would love for them to see her sparkle, to hear her laughter, and to receive her sweet kisses. And to know that she is healthy and thriving and that she sends kisses to them nightly. It is a bittersweet road, this adoption journey. I have so much joy remembering the moment I finally found Africa...and so much heartache knowing I needed Africa so much more than it needed me.

Fall is in the air

2009-08-31T08:22:00.003-05:00

It is so cold in my house this am that I am in sweats! That is a little bit wrong, given it IS still August...at least for the rest of the day!

We are so ready to be back in a routine. E started back this am, much to his chagrin. I think he was still enjoying summer. The kids NEED to go back to school before they do each other in. The middles have taken up arguing as a competitive sport. It seems the first one to give in and cry wins. Mom is ready to give up the referee roll for a while! Time for them to have some space, their own friends, and have their minds expanded for a bit.

Overall, summer was good. Trips to the lake, Duluth, the cities, and more filled many weeks. The kids thrived on biking, football in the front yard and swimming. Sunshine has grown by leaps and bounds and though she started the summer as a baby, she is a full fledged little girl now. Wow. For me it was a really bittersweet summer. Selling the shop was hard, and I still have days where I am so sad that I had to give it up. But these days, more often than not, I am thrilled with the new slower pace of life. I love not waking up worrying and going to bed only to wake up in the middle of the night in a panic. I launched a great shop and hopefully it will continue to flourish.

The fall is going to bring nice routine. J-dog and dad out the door by 7:15 to get the bus to the 6th grade school, the mom mobile loaded and out the door by 7:50 with stops at the elementary school and then on to work at the Y. I am really looking forward to working in the preschool and seeing if it is something I want to pursue further or not. Then mom and sunshine home for lunch and nap then back to pick up the brothers 3 by 2:45. It should be a good routine!

We are quickly approaching Sunshines one year family day. It hardly seems possible that a year ago we were planning the final details of our trip to get her. What a year! She is such an amazing blessing and I can't believe how much she has grown and changed in a year. I am worried about her Ethiopia family. There is a horrible drought right now in the region where some of her birth family lives and famine is spreading quickly. I feel so helpless so far away. We pray that God is holding them safely.

That is all for now...I will be closing out this blog in the next week or so and moving on to one that keeps pace with our whole family! Stay tuned for the switch!

Updates, Updates, Updates!

2009-08-17T08:31:00.002-05:00

Oops...so I fell off the blog-wagon again. I was going to be so good and try and write at least every other day...guess I was aspiring a little too high! So here is an update::

Miss Sunshine continues to dazzle with her smile and her 2 year old antics. She has been healthy ALL summer which is completely amazing after having her ill ALL winter! She is growing like a weed and will most certainly need a new wardrobe by fall as nothing from spring will fit any longer! I am not sure what she will do come fall when her beloved brothers are back at school and not at her beck and call. Poor kiddo! She is loving playing outside, playing babies and kitchen, and singing. She is also very fond of carrying the cats around...sorry kitties!

We have entered a very strange phase of life. It's called toddler and tween under the same roof. As I work on little one understanding the word no and contemplating potty training, the tween had his first visit to the orthodontist. Yieks! He is slated for round one of braces on Thursday. Not what he was hoping to hear. He has a traumatic overbite. Not what a mother wants to hear. I feel for him...but his 2 best friends also have braces, so he will be in good company! So nothing like braces and diapers all at the same time!

The other two are chugging along. The middle brother has had a fun summer and grown a ton. He is so good with his sister and has enjoyed playing hard and having fun with friends. I think he will be ready to head back to school soon to his own friends and a little time away from his little brother!

As for little brother...he is having a great summer with some big bumps. He is growing like crazy and just may surpass his brothers in time. He is soo strong and built like a linebacker. He ist he apple of his sisters eye and they have fun being silly together. His bumps have come in the form of friendships. In our neighboorhood, we have two kids across the street who are like siblings..but they are older then the little man and while he plays with them, he is often left out. Then there are the neighbors next door. They are his age and come from a home that has very different values from ours. While they play well together, what they play and the attiudes he is picking up are not good. We had to finally "ground" him from them for the week. He's just too good of a kid to follow the path I am afraid they are traveling. So since he is still only 6, mama put her foot down and now find myself with a 6 year old who needs some entertaining. He will be our right hand man this week!

The hubby has been very busy on projects the last few weeks and has lovingly gutted and rebuilt the kitchen. IT is fabulous!! Not sure what the next project will be, but his time is running out, as school starts in 2 weeks!

As for me...I am so happy. So much less stressed, so much nicer to be around! The store transition went well and is signed, selaed and delivered. I have a few loose ends to tie up, but not much. It is a huge relief! I just got a job this week working at the local Y as a preschool teacher. I can't wait. It will be a fun, stress free job! Yay! Miss Sunshine will be in childwatch at the Y, getting some fun kid time too. It will be a great fall!

So there you go. That's the update. I will post pictures later, but right now am getting the mom my turn on the computer look!

Birthday Princess and Officially ours!

2009-07-29T20:17:00.004-05:00

Well, the birthday Princess is two!! We had a grand pink palooza on Friday night and a great time was had by all. She LOVED opening presents and LOVED pink frosted cake. She is all about babies and cooking, so it was a kitchen and babies for her!

This week, we got to officially make her ours here in the USA. A VERY short court appointment followed by celebratory bagels at Panera started the day. Then it was home to open her first American Girl doll. Rather fitting for the day I thought! Enjoy the pics!

On one hand...and on the other

2009-07-16T07:32:00.002-05:00

Okay so changes have begun. I have decided to close my baby boutique. The economy has really hit us hard. People are still shopping, but spending so much less. I just finally got tired of the worry, the headaches, and the constant stress. At times I am almost giddy with the freedom that is on the horizon, and other times I am so scared of what next that a whole new form of panic sets in.

On the one hand, I knew in my heart it was done and I was done and the dream that was the shop was turning into more of a nightmare.

On the other hand, I wonder if I really tried everything, explored every avenue, gave it my all completely because it was so close to making it.

On one hand I will be thrilled to be bringing in money instead of continuing to throw money at the shop.

On the other hand, I have no idea what I am going to do to make that money!

On one hand I am excited about the possibilities of exploring something new,
On the other hand, I have NO idea what I want to do and worry that nothing will come along.

The next few weeks will be crazy. We are on vacation right now, which is good and bad. Good because after I announced the closing, I headed out of town and didn't have to deal with the fall out. But, I am still getting calls and thinking about all that needs to be done. It just sits constantly at the back of my mind. SO while being away and busy has been good, I can't totally escape. Next week, the shop will be closed all week and I will prep it for the final sales. There are two people who are interested in buying it if they can get the financing. That has lots of "on one hand" and "on the other hand" as well. IF that happens, then I really am just about done. And now what? looms pretty big on the horizon. Yieks.

Otherwise, the kids are doing great. We are in Duluth and they are loving the big lake and rock throwing and sightseeing. Eric is teaching at a teachers institute all week, so the kids and I have grand adventures during the day while he teaches, then we meet for evening adventures after that. It has been fun but not too relaxing...the kids just want to go and go and go!

So, now you are caught up. If anyone has any good job ideas...I'll be looking!!

One Year Ago

2009-07-10T13:26:00.003-05:00

A year ago today, we officially became Sunshine's parents in the eyes of the Ethiopian Courts. I remember that day so well and being soo excited to finally share her picture with friends and family! There are so many points along the journey that are worth celebrating, but this one is certainly a biggie! She has changed so much from that little scared, malnourished baby who's eyes showed just a little glimmer of her spunky spirit. Now her eyes sparkle all the time, she sings, and dances and attacks each day with gusto.

It is days like today where I grieve for all she left behind. I ache for those that loved her and made such hard choices for her. And I am soo lucky and thankful they made the choices they did.

Cha Cha Cha Changes....

2009-07-06T11:20:00.002-05:00

Yep, there are some changes on the horizon. Can't really go into detail at the moment, but said changes have given me pause to catch my breath, and get excited for possibilities to come (and NO we are not pregnant, adopting again or adding any more mammals to our brood!) I promise more info will come, but keep us in your thoughts as changes are always interesting!

So far July has found us pondering house projects, but not necessarily accomplishing them. We have grand ideas, but the days just seem to get away from us! I did manage to get the boys room done complete with new bunk beds and at least 2 hefty bags of treasures removed! The goal for today is to tackle the toys belonging to the princess. Her birthday is in just a few short weeks and needless to say, the baby toys are no longer needed as she is on to much bigger and better things like baby dolls and shopping carts. So time to sort and pass down, and give away, to make room for more treasures!

The boys continue to thrive. J may eat us out of house and home. He is a sleeping, eating machine right now. I live in fear of him waking up taller than I some morning...not a totally unrealistic fear at that!

So for the moment, that's the story and I am sticking to it. I will feed you more info on changes as they come...just keep us in your thoughts!

2009-06-27T21:56:00.001-05:00

Pictures!

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The JC Penney Pose!

Trouble x 2

Happy times

Summer Time

2009-06-27T12:59:00.002-05:00

Summer is in full swing. It's hot, it's muggy, the kids are happy, and I get late evenings reading alone on the porch! It's all good. June has slipped by so fast. Our time at the lake was wonderful. (I am typing from work today, but I promise to post pics from the lake soon!) Little Miss LOVED being on the boat and even tolerated hours long fishing journeys. As long as she had some juice, an empty bottle of diet coke and a few snacks, she was good to go. She assisted mama in catching 129 fish over the course of 6 days. It was great fun. She loved the lake, and dumping and pouring water and sand for hours on end. It was wonderful to be away from it all and able to take a true break and have time to think, relax, ponder, and refresh. Someday, we will have a lake place. Give me a lake with loons calling across it's shores and I am at peace!

We hauled back from the lake on Friday night in time to go to the Ethiopian Mehaber picnic on Sunday. It was a fun day and a chance to see some of our best friends in the adoption community. Last year we traveled with Sunshine's picture, but no girl. The best part was meeting up with the Petersons whom we traveled with and watching the girls hug and play. They traveled their journeys together and although they are so young, I think they really do have a very special connection. It was a great day.

Once back from the cities, we unpacked a weeks worth of laundry and gear and then packed dad out for a week of workshop teaching. Nana moved in for a few days and appropriately spoiled all of us!

Now it is almost July! How did we get to July already? I think the rest of the summer will speed by as well. The list of projects continues, and there might be some changes afoot. We have a few more mini trips on the horizon and lots of family pool time!

Sunshine turns two in less than a month. Wow. She really has flipped from baby to kiddo. She is funny and sassy and actually has some dimples on her thighs! Such a wonderful sight! She is such a loving, happy child. I still can't believe she is my daughter. What a gift to be given!

Okay, time to get back to work for a bit. I will try to get pictures up yet this weekend and keep you posted on all that is happening in the land of sweetpeas and sunshine!

Schools out for Summer!!

2009-06-06T15:52:00.002-05:00

It's officially summer in our world. School got out on Thursday afternoon. I now have a 6th grader, a 4th grader and a 1st grader! (and a princess who thinks she is 1 going on 16!) Wow. The year went by so very fast. I can't believe how much the kids have grown. J-dog is not too far from seeing the top of my head, and Mr B is getting to long and solid for me to comfortably carry. It goes too darn fast.

So what does summer hold?

It's almost time for a week at the lake with the grandparents and cousins...then home for some much needed house projects, pool time and baseball games. We were set to do 4 nights a week of baseball...t-ball on M/W and baseball for the bigger boys Tu/Thurs. However, biggest boy fell the second night of practice and broke his elbow. OUCH! He is in a sling at the moment, with hopes to have it off by the time we head to the lake in a week. Poor kid. I guess it was a career ending injury. Good thing we won't miss out on the opportunity to see baseball games, still have 4 nights of games a week, just not running so much in between! We are hoping for a week on the North Shore and lots of little family outings here and there. All in all, it should be a good summer.

I have to put in more hours at work over the summer. Dad is home so he gets kid duty. I am already missing my one on one with Miss Sassy. She and I have been joined at the hip since she came home, now she will be with daddy 10-3 everyday. As nice as it will be to actually get some work done, I will really miss having her at the shop. I don't think daddy realizes how busy she is. He has a list a mile long of all he hopes to accomplish this summer. I think top of his list will be chase Miss Sassy. She has a mind and a will all her own, and she just goes and goes and goes! Gotta love it! Can't wait to see what really gets done.

I promise to upload some pics soon. We are having picture issues with the computer at the moment, so it may be a bit.

Three cheers for summer!

Nice to be Missed!

2009-05-30T07:32:00.001-05:00

So it is nice to know that I have been missed in the blogosphere! My writing time should improve now as there are only 4 days left of school and I will be going to work with out my pint-sized helper. This means more concentrated computer time is available!!

Our big news of the week is an elbow fracture. The oldest fell at baseball on Tuesday and fractured the tip of the elbow. He is in a sling for 10 days with the plan to re-xray at that time. Talk about a huge bummer. He is taking it pretty well and just prays it is all healed by vacation to the lake time!

As for Miss Sassy, we are having some bed time issues. If she naps, which she still does need, she won't go to bed. She was up until 11 last night, enjoying Jay Leno's farewell episode. Not so nice for mom and dad who were ready to sleep! Any pointers???

Well, off to make pancakes and sausage. If ya hurry you can come and share some too!

:)

Referral-versary

2009-05-28T16:31:00.002-05:00

Today I am giddy. One year ago this afternoon, we finally got a face, a name and a story that would become our own. One year ago today, I laid eyes on my sweet, sweet daughter and the pain of the wait exploded into pure joy. I so vividly remember getting the call, hearing her name, beginning to grasp her story. The moment her picture appeared on my computer screen, it truly was love at first sight. I remember thinking, as I stared at the picture, how much I wanted to see a smile in her sad little eyes, and a little chub on her cheeks. I loved her with a fierce, mama bear kind of love from the get go, and over the last year that love has grown deeper than I could have ever imagined.

So how is my sweet sunshine...one year into the journey? She is wonderful. She is happy, healthy, well adjusted, hilarious, queen bee, songbird, giggle monster, and the worlds best snuggler. My mornings start with "MAMMMAHHHHH" and a huge grin and a hug and a kiss. Each morning it's almost like she can't quite believe we are still here for her. She chases her brothers and picks the cats up by the tummy. She loves to put on a dress and be "pretty, pretty, pretty" and have her toe-nails painted like moms. She LOVES her dad and her brothers and knows her way around a sandbox full of boys. She has a sneaky side, but likes getting caught almost as much as creating mischief and the dimples she sports on each cheek can make a grown man cry. She loves to dance and to sing and she has a tenacity that amazes me.

Many nights during the wait, I imagined this child and how she would fit into our family. I dreamed grand dreams and created rosy visions. I can honestly say it is so much better than I ever even dreamed it could be. This child, who traveled so far and endured so much, has completed me. Completed my family, completed my heart. I thank God for her and the joy she brings. She truly is my sunshine!

It's a March Monday

2009-03-30T13:30:00.002-05:00

Yep...been a while since I last blogged. We have had every germ and illness found in this city, running through our house since about the first week in Feb. I was sooo sick of sick kids. I truly had someone home sick every day for the 3 weeks. Talk about putting a kink in the daily grind! YIEKS! I am so pleased to say that everyone is now back at school and except for Sunshine's ever present snotty nose, we are back in the saddle again! Thank God!

It has been an intense couple of weeks. A time in my life that I wish I had super powers and could be in multiple places at once. I needed to be at the shop, needed to be at home, wanted to run away by myself and leave the circus! This motherhood buisness is the worlds most tricky balancing act. So many times I feel like I have fallen off the wire and wonder what in the world will catch me. I can't wait for true spring to arrive, warm days, warm nights, with time to hopefully catch my breath.

I was reflecting on life over the last 4 years. Each year has brought some huge change. There was re-locating the shop, moving to the new house, beginning the adoption journey and moving the shop again. Now the shop is settled, we have completed our family, we are NEVER moving...so I am really hoping we can just slow down a tiny bit and settle into the status quo!

Sunshine continues to thrive. She is growing like a weed and is soo funny. She is a total stinker and has a look that puts fear in my heart as I imagine that look in about 10 years! She continues to LOVE her brothers, her cats, her dogs and lately her books. I have Brown Bear memorized and have been know to recite it in the wee small hours of the morning! She still isn't a good sleeper, but I am hopefull that might change post surgery. She is turning into a real girly girl and loves her pretties and purses and babies! (Yay!) SHe is constant motion, and usually has us wrapped around her finger! At the moment we are looking for the perfect Easter Dress. Ahhh o many choices!

Time to go reclaim the brothers from school. I would promise to blog more often...but lets be realistic...it is a rare day the stars line up long enough for me to compose my thoughts let alone type them out :)!

Pictures, updates, and adenoids

2009-03-10T20:48:00.006-05:00

Little Miss Sunshine!!

So I have been a little bit crazy, no time to type on the computer when you are chasing a VERY active 19month old tsumani...the cutest little whirlwind to grace the earth I am sure! Life is going at a warp speed and I am loving every minute of it. I was reading old blog posts the other night and thinking about how unsettled and unsure I was about this quest to find my daughter...and now 1 year later, life is grand and she is such an amazingly wonderful part of my life. At 19 months her fav word is "yep" and we rarely hear "no" unless she is into something she knows she shouldn't be, then she scolds herslef with a "no,no,no" complete with finger shake ala mama! This doesn't stop her, but it makes us laugh! She is a mountain goat and can all too often be found scaling the dining room table or the kitchen stool...curiosity is her MO.
Two weeks ago, we had the wonderful chance to meet up with the Peterson's in the Dells. We all traveled to ET togther and it was so fun to see how much the girls have grown and to spend time together. I wanted to post pics of the girls together, but they all turned out with one looking the wrong way etc etc...but here are a few of the gang

A great time was had by all.

Little Miss SUnshine continues to have green snot and a nasty cough...this has been going on since we got home. So today was a trip to the ENT who decided a little surgery is in order. April 16th, she will lose her adenoids, tonsills, and maybe get a tube or two. We are anxious to get her healthy and hope this does the trick. I hate to think of surgery, but it has gone on long enough and is affecting her sleep, our sleep, her growth etc. Time to get healthy once and for all!

Well, that is all for now...I will try to post more often, I do miss it. Enjoy the pics!

Ode to Diet Coke

2009-02-22T15:46:00.002-06:00

So my daughter has discovered Diet Coke. I really didn't introduce her to it on purpose...she found it all by herself. It all started with an almost empty bottle that she carried around and inhaled the vapors from. Then she found my glass and took her first sweet sip. She was a goner! She truly screamed at me when I took it away from her. Ahh the love. I knew I loved this girl with all my heart...this is just a little extra sweet icing on the top!!

Bad Blogger!

2009-02-19T08:12:00.004-06:00

Okay, so I am a bad blogger! I can't believe it has been almost a month since I last posted. I guess it is a sign of how truly nuts life is right now.

Little Miss is thriving. Although we are sick AGAIN with green boogies and a horrible cough. This time the whole house has it, so I am biding my time before I put her back on antibiotics...we'll see if her body can kick it. We have an appointment with an ENT in a few weeks and I will be anxious to see where that takes us. I am guessing her adenoids need to come out. Won't that be fun! She is such a little trooper and just keeps on keepin on even when she doesn't feel great. I am a little nervous to think about how busy she might be when she feels 100%!

Her current loves are her brothers, the kitties, animal crackers, dancing, and carrying things around the house or the shop. We have settled into our days at the boutique. She is the resident greeter and welcomes everyone with a "hi". She is not shy, but is quick to return to my side if they start talking to her! She is so funny and is getting really good at displays (not nec. a positive thing!)

I am coping with four kids, a retail business in the midst of a recession, a big dirty house, and all the extra's that seem to fall onto my plate. I have found that getting up at 5:15 and walking for 45 min helps my outlook and as long as there is a steady stream of Diet Coke I can hold my own. I had totally forgotten how VERY busy this stage of parenting is. Yowzers. We were thinking about putting Meron in day care one day a week, but given how sick she gets, we may have to pass on that until fall. I just want her to have a healthy week or two, not on antibiotics! Not so much to ask I don't think!

Well, it is time to start the day...pack lunches, diapers, and the like and head off to work. I will try to post more often...I miss the chance to write about the inane and the wonderful!

Here are a few pics to tied you all over till I get back in the saddle!

Still Alive

2009-01-28T17:08:00.002-06:00

Yes, I am still alive. Life has taken over...the computer is now pretty low on the priority list! I am moving my boutique to a new location and have spent the better part of the last few weeks running from dawn to dusk and collapsing into bed! Not to mention still being mom, zoo keeper, chief cook and bottle washer etc. I could use about 3 of me right now!

Miss Sassy Spice is 18 months old already. She is so incredibly wonderful, spunky, sparkly, challenging and wholly toddler! She is right on track developmentally and is now weighing in at 24 lbs and is 30 inches long. She is cruising through clothing sizes like crazy. My little peanut that fit into 6-9 month clothes is now busting out of her 18 month sizes! She is walking and starting to talk as well. She took her first big tumble the other night, off a dining room chair. She has a nice bruise and cut by her eye. Poor baby...but she was right back up on that chair the next morning...I think there may be a wee bit of stubborness in this girl! We are still dealing with sinus issues. She is fine if she is on meds, but off them for more than a week and we are back to green snot etc. We hope to get into the ENT soon and see what he says. We are praying it is not allergy related as the pet list now consists of 3 cats, 2 dogs, 7 hamsters (chubby hamsters can produce a lot of babies...amazing!) 2 gecko's and a fish. Yieks! Otherwise, this girl just continues to amaze me...she is soo loving and cuddly and just melts my heart (which is good up here in the north country!)

So there ya go. Life is good, full to overflowing, and random...but never dull!

Over Run by 11 year olds

2009-01-16T22:08:00.003-06:00

As I sit here and type this, there is a Nerf Vulcan war being waged between the basement and the living room...it is 10 pm and I am not sure if there is sleep in my future or not. My baby is 11 today and we are having a slumber party for a few buddies. I think I am on the brink of a whole new style of parenting...the can we watch a PG 13 movie? Can I get the T rated video game? So big, and yet still so small! It is a little crazy to have two extremes going on in my house. One in diapers, the other needing deodorant...crazy to think about.

Tomorrow we get to start painting at the shop's new location. I am hoping for a little sleep so I can have some energy to paint tomorrow! Little one has a stuffy nose yet again. I am starting to fear it could be allergies, which in our household of critters could be bad news. Hopefully she will sleep tonight, but I guess if she does get up, we'll just send her down to the slumber party!

Okay, must get off the computer and make some pizza rolls and motz sticks. I am such a good momma!!

Too Cold to Go To School

2009-01-14T21:25:00.002-06:00

You know it's bad when they cancel school the night before because it is going to be too cold to go to school in the morning. Yieks! We are already at -17 and headed to about -24 and that is straight temp without the windchill...that takes you down to about -40. Boy I sure do love living in Minnesota.

We have had quite a week. Miss Sunshine is cutting two bottom teeth and is quite a bear. Mom had the tummy flu for two days and was totally out of commission (and that is NEVER good) The shop closes on Sat so we can move to our new digs, it's finals week for hubby and my baby turns 11 on Friday. YIEKS and YIEKS once again. So a day of being home might not be all bad...the kids have had it pretty easy this week. School called early on Mon for a blizzard, late start Tuesday for the teachers...maganged to go all day today, now no school tomorrow...ahh the life of a student!

I "did" Sunshines hair for the first time tonight. She has such tight little curls that when I combed it out, I was amazed how much it has grown! She has 4 little puffs in. I tried to take a pic, but the camera died. If she hasn't figured out how to pull them out by tomorrow, I will post a pic. For now, I am heading to bed...fully dressed in my long johns, sweats, and socks with a down comforter, and an extra blanket or two. Then I may try to con at least one child to hop in as well as a dog and a kitten or two. It is WAY beyond a three dog night!!

Where is the time going?

2009-01-10T19:35:00.002-06:00

Where did my baby go? Who is this little girl who is running around my house, chatting up a storm? How did she grow so much so fast? She truly amazes me, this little one. She has a spirit that just keeps giving, and a smile that can chase the clouds out of the darkest day. I just fall more and more in love!

She has been home almost 4 months and it feels like a lifetime. I can't imagine life without her. When I fall exhausted into bed at night, I marvel at how quiet and boring life was before her. (Okay, maybe not boring, but certainly missing this special little spark). I think she is realizing that this is all for real and that we are her family. I think she is doing some grieving in the wee small hours of the morning. We are getting lots and lots of tears at about 1 am and she wants full body contact, to be swaddled, and rocked and held tight. It was driving me crazy until I figured out that she must be doing her grieving. Now it makes sense and I am more than happy to love her through it.

I ache for her ET family. The days where her smile truly brings tears to my eyes, I ache that they don't know her. I ache that their memory of her is as a malnourished, frightened little baby. I ache that they do not see the sparkle in her eye or hear the music in her giggles. We just finished our 3 month post placement report. We sent pictures and the SW wrote a report. It reminded me of sending her her package, way back when we got her referral. I wanted to send so much love in those pictures and words. To let the staff in ET and hopefully her family know that she is thriving, that she is loved, and that she is happy.

I am blessed, blessed beyond measure...and thank God for this most amazing little gift.

Christmas Pics!

2008-12-30T21:52:00.005-06:00

Whoo Hoo It's Christmas!

Dressed to the nine's and feeling a little sassy!

And this about says it all!

Christmas hugs and Tummy Bugs!

2008-12-29T10:39:00.002-06:00

Ah the joy of Christmas, family gathered together to share old memories and create new ones. The awe on the faces of kids who believe in all the magic and wonder! The close proximity and sharing of food and drink and tummy flu! Oh yes, it was a Christmas to remember and we are "enjoying" the gift that just keeps giving!

Christmas eve was great, I cried as I put my baby girl into her perfect velour Christmas dress (pictures to come later today!) I had only waited a life time for that chance! Good times with our little family of six, eating our manger meal at home then over-stuffing the trailblazer with presents and people for the ride to nana's. Getting to nana's and settling in, snuggling the new baby from Seattle, watching Miss Sunshine hold court, watching the kids faces as they sorted through the gifts to be opened. Christmas day was wonderful too...great presents, good food, great time together...then it all went down hill starting with the sweet little one from Seattle, then his mommy, and on and on and on. We are still in the "throws" of the fun, with B sick, dad sick, mom feeling less than great, and the rest hanging on the edge. This seems to happen far too often over the holidays...these bugs that just keep on giving. So not the picture perfect holiday we all imagined. But we will remember it! So today, instead of cleaning and putting my house back in order, it will be a day of club crackers and sprite, sleep, mindless tv, and hopefully no one else juming on the band wagon.

I hope you all had wonderful holidays! I promise to post pics and wax a little sentimental when I am off cracker and sprite duty!!

Baptism and more

2008-12-16T22:27:00.007-06:00

Okay, so I have been getting a little flack for not keeping up with the blogging. Between having 4 children, 2 new kittens, it being Christmas, and owning a store...the computer time is a little short these days...that and my silly tsunami doesn't like when mommy gets on the computer.

So anyhow...Meron's baptism was on the 30th. It was a wonderful day with Papa baptizing her, her brothers all in their ET shirts, and being surrounded by wonderful family and friends. We had a yummy brunch at the house after church and I was doing fine until I said the prayer before we ate. Thinking about the promises we made to her father in Ethiopia, and knowing how loved this child is did me in...luckily I was in great company.

Meron continues to thrive. She is so independent and is quickly changing from baby to toddler. She is sassy and sweet, cuddly and a little stubborn! She loves the kitties and follows them around talking to them. She can undo a display at the shop in the time it takes me to get the lights on and is maybe getting a little too comfortable at the shop...following customers around and chatting them up! She continues to be well attached and we continue to feel amazingly blessed.

I know you really don't care much about my chitter chatter...so without further adue, here are some pics!

Christmas with a 16 month old...

2008-12-09T19:07:00.002-06:00

does it get ANY better? Sassy Spice continues to be a riot. She is finally feeling good, no more boogers and she is hilarious!! She loves to carry on an ongoing monologue. We sure wish we knew what she was saying...she loves to talk with her hands, and she is quite good at giving us some serious lectures! We went to cut the tree on Sunday (pics to come as soon as my *(&%! computer starts to work again!) She was bundled up from head to toe and I am quite sure was telling us that in Ethiopia they don't put ALL of their clothes on and go wander through the forest! She is now quite enamored with the tree and likes to sit by it and sing to it. She is fully walking now, which is bitter sweet. I miss the incredibly short lived baby stage, but I love watching her toddle around. I don't think she has any idea of what is to come in the next few weeks. She had her first spritz cookie and enjoyed it! Oh baby girl...there is so much more magic to come!!

Am I really up for the Challenge?

2008-12-03T12:02:00.002-06:00

It's one of those days. One of those days where I wonder who I thought I was and what super human abilities I thought I possessed. Parenting a toddler who is teething, maybe grieving, and in general very needy of mama. Parenting 3 elementary school boys who are fabulous and wonderful, but are getting the short end of the stick right now. Running a retail boutique in a recession, during the holidays and trying to think of drastic measures to get customers in the door...all the while planning a move to a new location on a wing and a prayer. Who do I think I am???

Retail is really scary right now, but I know that I have to look beyond this economic crisis and stay afloat. I am determined to make this work...it has too. I was so close to profitability at the end of last year and now this year will plunge us back down. At least I am in good company! And I keep focused on the big picture...it is much happier!

Parenting is a challenge. I really struggle with complaining about parenting my precious toddler. I know there is a family on the other side of the world that would give anything to have the chance to complain about parenting her. I have been given this amazing gift and I never ever want to seem ungrateful, because she is such a blessing. But it is what it is and she is a bit of a pistol right now. She is teething, has a sinus infection and is on the brink of so many things developmentally that it is no wonder she isn't too happy. But it is that hard time, made harder still by adoption in that I am still getting to know her, to figure her out, and she is getting more comfortable and testing and pushing and learning to trust. And sometimes I forget that, forget that she hasn't always had me and I her...because it often seems that way.

I have this strange mentality that I wanted her so bad, really wanted it all so bad, that now I have to do it all, be all, take on all. Sort of like making your bed and lying in it. It is a great bed, and I love it, but there are days when I would love to just have time to wash the sheets. I am definitely the one that creates my own chaos, and I fully own that, but sometimes I have to remind myself that I am human and I can only do and be so much. In my life, I have always come out okay, it has always worked, my dreams and schemes have always kept me afloat. I hope and pray that trend continues...days like today, I wonder. A friend said to me this am, "You run on an energy that I can only imagine. At least you know God never gives you more than you can handle" Is God giving me all of this? Can I handle it? How much of all of this is my own doing? Did I not listen close enough? All I can do is have faith. Faith that I am listening and God is providing, and it will all work out.

Oh So Thankful

2008-11-26T16:10:00.003-06:00

I am Thankful for...

My faith, that has seen me through a year unlike any other.

My beautiful children, who brighten each and every moment of my life.

My husband who willingly comes along for the ride...and doesn't scream too much.

For the new place in my heart that is filled with the people and places of Ethiopia.

For the new friends I have made this year and the friends that remained steadfast.

For AMAZING parents whose love and generosity knows no limits.

For health.

For the chance to dream dreams and daring to take the risks to make them come true!

For all of my non-human kids...2 dogs and 3 kittens...who make me laugh and don't talk back!

For the opportunity to share the mundane, the wonderful, the ridiculous, and the mountaintop with each of you!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Is 37 reallly the new 27??

2008-11-20T15:18:00.002-06:00

Not sure I am feeling it! Today I turn the big 37. To many, I am just a kid...to others I am really old (like my 5 yr old for example..."mom that's a lot of years!" ) I think I am feeling every one of those 37 years. My bones are tired...parts of me that shouldn't be sagging seem to be, and I may be getting a wee bit of dementia! I have yet to catch myself coming and going today. If you see me, send me back to me...

I must say however, that at 37 I have a lot more wisdom than I did at 27. At 27 I was a first time parent. Although I would love the energy I had at 27, parenting a toddler at 37 IS easier. I have a much better view of the world, my world and how the two mesh. What seemed soo important at 27 doesn't even hit the radar now. My values have stronger roots, my self confidence is much more about me than about how others see me, and I KNOW without a doubt that faith and family are the two most important things in the world to me.

So even though this day has been less then celebratory, I am thankful to be here, jumping with both feet into another year, blessed beyond measure to have the mileage of the first 37 years shaping the next 37!~

Other Stuff

2008-11-18T20:40:00.000-06:00

Okay, I am deviating a bit from the heavy reflections. My brain resembles Jello right now! Baby girl has decided that 2 am is a really nice time to get up and have quality time with mom and dad. We are not convinced. However, she really likes this particular hour of the wee small ones. So between chasing this toddling, tsunami imitating little person around all day and partying at 2am, I am feeling a bit rough around the edges! I feel soo much older with a toddler at 36 (for only 1 more day) than I did with a toddler at 31. If she weren't so stinkin cute as she destroys everything in reach, I might be reconsidering this whole proposition...but alas she is the most precious one year old around...so we will continue onward! Then there are the two kittens who have taken over my bathroom. They too are adorable, and actually much more destructive than baby girl. We have our own special brand of chaos around here and I love it all...especially when I can collapse into bed at night (once I remove the stuffed animals, random socks, books, and laundry!)

How can it already be almost Christmas? That is a question weighing heavy in the jello brain today. As a retailer, this season is more bah humbug than joy to the world, but I am hoping for my very own little Christmas miracle. If you have small independent retailers in your area...support them. There are no bail outs coming our way! My own little shop is at a bit of a turning point. My lease is up in a month and while I love my happy little spot, I wouldn't mind a slightly better location. I have 2 possibilities. One is way up there on the list and one I have yet to see. It will be a very interesting week as I need to make a decision. Add that to my little tsunami, few shoppers, 12 loads of laundry and the opportunity to turn 37 this week and I think I know why my brain is mush. Maybe I need that quiet 2am hour to get something done! Super woman I am not.

So now that you have read all that, your brain may well be jello too as you try to comprehend my scattered state! All I can say is say a little prayer for direction for my shop...shop your local retailers...and if you find the fountain of youth...let me know!

More...

2008-11-12T21:07:00.007-06:00

Waking up to the Call to Prayer at 4:30 in the morning was perfect. God had called me all along on this journey, and it seemed so fitting to be awakened on this most amazing day to prayers floating through the window. Watching the sun come up over the distant hills, and the city that I had only seen so far in the dark begin to take shape was fascinating. Looking out the window and realizing that my daughter was out there, in that city, waiting for me, and that my arms would not ache to hold her any longer, I felt such peace.

The ride to the care center was another feast for the senses. The streets teemed with people and goats and taxi's. What was blurred in the mist and weariness of the night before, now glared sharply in the bright light of day. The poverty was amazing. The poverty was devastating. The poverty was everywhere. And yet right along side it was life and hope. Smiling people, embracing each other. Men walking hand in hand...the bonds of great friendships so visible. Women dressed in beautiful bright scarves, with babies on their backs. It was these babies, peeking out behind scarves, rushing the van with hands outstretched, sharing a smile from across the road..these children, who touched the deepest part of my soul. I was adopting one child, taking one child from this amazing country and though I rejoiced in that, I prayed that these precious children who I saw at every turn, might thrive and flourish right where they were, and I mourned that my daughter would have no memory of her beautiful country.

All through the wait, I had tried to imagine the moment when I would finally hold my daughter in my arms and I couldn't. Even in the small hours of the morning, listening to the call to prayer drift across the city, I couldn't imagine how it was going to be to finally hold her. Would I cry, would she cry? Would it be everything I hoped for? Would she find comfort in us? Finally the moment had arrived. I was just so excited. So peaceful. So ready. She was standing in the window with the look I have come to know and love...the look that means pure joy. She was waving...I know she wasn't waving at us, but it felt like she knew...her life was about to start again. Walking into her room, my eyes were only on her and the moment that she melted into my arms, I knew that THIS child, the one I had prayed for, had asked God to hold and protect, whom I had carried so gently in my heart, that THIS child was perfect in every way. And I think she felt it too. We belonged together. Two lost souls, needing to find their missing piece, were now complete. Our connection was instant, which was amazing and had God written all over it. Sitting on the floor of the care center, falling in love with this amazing child, memorizing her features, taking off her shoes and socks to kiss her toes, finding that spot between her ear and her neck and kissing it until it glowed...these were the moments that I imagined in the dark places along the way...and they were so much better than I could have ever hoped.

Each time we left her and came back to her, I fell more and more in-love, and as we got more glimpses into her history and her time at the care center, I realized how long both of our journeys had been and it all made sense. Not sense in that she suffered huge losses and that her family had been through so much already, but sense in why the wait was so long, why the road seemed so steep. It was because this was the child that was meant to be in my arms.

Much more happened in Africa that I still am processing. It may take a life time of prayer, thought and reflection before I can fully integrate it. Leaving Africa felt much the same as leaving the boys had at the beginning of the trip. I was so ready to go home, and yet so sad to leave the country of my daughter's birth. We pledged to come back when she is old enough to get the most out of her visit, and I hope and pray that we will one day be able to fulfill that promise. Just as I cried tears of joy landing in Africa, I cried tears of sorrow to leave her. But there is no doubt that while I didn't have a very big impact on Africa, Africa changed my life.

As the ride East across the ocean had been serene and theraputic, the ride West was challenging and wonderful in it's own way. Each mile seemed to bond Meron to us and us to her a little more. We are seasoned parents, but picking up a little life, 1 year in, is a bit daunting. Anticipating her needs, reading her cues...all things we were on a crash course to discover. Little sleep was had by any of us, and it was a long a grueling ride, but I wouldn't trade those moments for anything.

Arriving at our home airport was the stuff of Hallmark movies. Exhausted, world weary travelers arrive with perfectly amazing daughter and all but collapse into the arms of waiting family and friends once home. That moment, coming down the escalator into baggage claim and seeing my babies still brings tears to my eyes. With Meron tightlly strapped to me in the Moby wrap, we crashed into the loving arms of her waiting brothers. There were cheers and tears, hugs and delight. We were complete. A family of six, surrounded by the love of friends and family. We were home, our journey complete...or our real journey just begun! (more again on life at home soon!)

Reflections

2008-11-11T18:22:00.006-06:00

Two months ago today, I was landing in Ethiopia, preparing to meet my daughter. So much has changed in my life since that day. Bit by bit I am finally able to reflect on the journey, the trip, and the new normal. This post is mostly just me, reflecting on where we have been and were we are. Someone recently posted a question on our adoption forum asking what surprised us most about the journey. It really got me thinking and this is what is ruminating now...

I never thought the adoption process would take such a toll on me personally. I had read the Complete Guide to International Adoption and had the steps laid out and our plan in place. As a family we had discussed the plans around the dinner table and agreed we were ready for the ride. However, I am not known for my patience and this journey pushed me to my very limits and then a little further. I loved being pregnant, loved feeling the changes, growing and glowing. I assumed that adoption would have a similar effect on me emotionally though not physically. Boy was I wrong. This adoption took a toll on my body..I gained weight, and put myself through some major emotional turmoil. Having no control over the situation was so so hard. I plan, I execute, I look back and evaluate. Only on this journey, my plans, my time line, my needs were at the bottom of the heap. It was really a struggle. It helped immensley to have our adoption forum where I could vent with people who understood. There were also a couple of friendships created from there that will be life long relationships. But overall, I had to let go and let God and I don't let go. I hang on fiercely with every inch of my being. God knows this...and always patiently waits for me to finally let go. The other really hard aspect is when you are pregnant, everyone is bouying you up, carrying you along. In adoption, unless you wear it on your shirt, no stranger is going to give you a knowing smile, ask when you are due, or regale you with advice you don't want. Adoption can be a really lonely journey. In the quiet moments of the wait, the emotions of this journey are overwhelming. Realizing you are wishing and praying for a child who will lose their family, their culture, and experience more pain and suffering in their tiny life than your whole lifetime of experience can comprehend can be excrutiating times deep with in your soul. And yet you do wish and pray and wait and dream. Who will this child be? What will she look like? How much longer do I have to wait? Will I get to the end of this journey and wonder what have I done? or wonder why I didn't do it sooner? And it was within these times that I got to know myself better, made some amazing friendships, and deepened the faith that sustained me through the process.

That moment when we got the call that we had waited so long for will forever be kept in a precious place in my memory. I had finally let go. I had cried, I had prayed, I had let go. And God was right there. Feeling my phone vibrate in my pocket, and looking to see the area code was a true epiphany for me. It was my very own Easter morning, the time of lost wandering was over and there was new life blooming in my heart. I will always remember the looks of joy and wonder on the faces of the boys as we met them at school and told them they had a sister, and gathering around the dinner table...our journey coming full circle, as we opened the picture of our precious daughter's face. Her journey to us was ladened with loss and tears, and her tiny little body showed the battle scars. But she was a fighter and we were going to be a family...she was coming home to complete us, and we would now be home to her. She was my daughter and I already loved her with a fierce and amazing love.

Then there was the call on a bright and sunny afternoon in June. I was happily painting the mural in her room, finally nesting and dreaming dreams with a real little person in mind. It was the social worker and my heart stopped. "Is it a good time?" There were medical complications. My daughter, a world away, with out a mother or father to comfort her. This brought me to my knees. Dear God, we have come so very far, hold her in your hands until we get to her. Keep her safe, keep her healthy. Another very lonely place along the road. We were facing a medical diagnosis we hadn't planned on, for a child we had never met, across the world in a developing country. Frantic calls to Dr's, and family, all the while praying for answers. God continued to hold us up, we let go, and knew that no matter what we would face, she was our daughter and we would take on whatever challenges presented themselves.

And then we got the news we could travel. We would be traveling with the family that had become so very important to us along the way. We would be traveling the week after school started...perfect timing for our family. Again...let go let God. The night we left was really really hard. I thought I would be fine leaving the boys behind. They were in great hands, they were settled into school, but I was traveling a world away. What if something happened? What if we didn't make it back? Would they really be okay? Hugging them goodbye rocked me to my soul. I tried so hard to be brave...not to let them see my tears...it was so hard. But then we were on the road. We were heading to our daughter. We had a day of travel to transition from life as we knew it to the life we dreamed of. The travel was easy, and surreal and perfect for preparing to fill my heart with all that Ethiopia had to offer.

When we touched down in Addis, the tears were back. A year long journey had finally reached it's pinnicale. I was going to hold my daughter, I was going to hold her country, I was so ready to stop holding so tightly to my dreams and my heart. Africa took my breath away from the moment I first saw it. We were treated with kindness and care from the moment we walked off the airplane. As we drove through the crowded city streets, through constuction, and a light mist, Addis pounded with vibrancy. New smells assulted my nose and my eyes danced with all they saw. It was all I had imagined and so much more. It was a kalidascope of poverty and beauty and color and chaos, of mud and human need, and joy and grit. It was gorgeous, and humbling and it took my breath away. How did I ever get so lucky as to have the chance to weave this amazing place into the fabric of my family? And it was only the beginning....(more tomorrow, I promise!)

She Walks!

2008-11-06T19:00:00.002-06:00

Wow, what a great afternoon! Sassy spice took her first steps!!!! She had spent the last couple of days doing that A-frame move where she goes from sitting to standing then applauding herself for standing so well. Well today, she took it a step further, literally! Her longest sprint so far is eight precious little steps. She is so proud of herself! We are too...the brothers all rallied around her and cheered her on. It is so amazing to think that just 6 short weeks ago we picked her up. She could hardly bear weight on her legs. Now, she is cruising. We continue to feel amazingly blessed by this incredible child and so in awe of the opportunity to be her parents. She is such a joy..in all her sassy sillyness. I will take some new pics tomorrow and post some soon. I will try to catch her in action!!

VOTE!!

2008-11-03T17:37:00.002-06:00

Vote tomorrow. It is your right, it is your priviledge, it is your duty. Personally, I say please vote Obama. He is for families, he is for the middle class, he is about change.

I will be voting tomorrow...for Obama...for my kids, my kids kids, for the future. How wonderful to look into my daughter's eyes and tell her...yes honey, it is possible!

VOTE!

What it's really all about...

2008-11-01T09:07:00.003-05:00

If you focus on personal finances, business finances, the monthly budget...it is enough to make you want to throw up. At least that is the case around here. It is a horrible time to own a small, slightly upper scale boutique. It is a horrible time to be realizing as a family you probably really screwed up in how you viewed money, spent money, and didn't save much money. These are the things that have weighed on my mind, consumed my thoughts and given me nightmares.

I had to force my thoughts to something else yesterday as the day was all about the kids. I hosted the halloween party in Z-man's class. As we were checking in at the school office, Miss Sunshine was getting lots of love. The secretary and I were talking about how much her brothers love her. She said that our boys are some of the sweetest, most well behaved, kind students she has ever had the priviledge to know..and she has been the secretary since the dino's roamed! She said,"do you realize what an inspiration your family is...in all you do and the kids you have raised? We all think you are quite amazing" Needless to say I was humbled. Then it was off to the class room, where I got the joy of spending 2 hours hanging out with some very cool 3rd graders.

After that is was back home, to create last minute costumes and get ready. Usually we order pizza...homemade this year. My eldest says "mom this is so much better than the ordered kind!" I decorated their faces with face paint and was told I was amazing. We loaded everyone up and began our trick or treat adventure, down the hill, ending at the HS for the section finals game for the football team. We have a wonderful neighborhood and it was so fun to be amongst the throng of tricker treaters. We got to the game, and found our "spot". We LOVE our football and even Sassy Spice is into it. The girl who should have been sleeping, was clapping and hollering right along with the rest of us. I counted 4 times that someone came up and told me what a beautiful family we have...again I was humbled. Our team won. We stuck around till the last players were off the field so my football crazy boys could high five the quarterback. This was the moment that made the night for all of us. The sweet HS quarterback, comes off the field and sees B, riding on his daddy's shoulders...his hand stretched out for a high five. He comes up and says..."That last touchdown, I threw that one for you!" and he high-fived all the boys. And I was a little teary. The world sucks right now. Our finances suck right now. Business sucks right now. But on a chilly fall night, a sweaty highschool seinor and 3 awed little boys, slammed everything into perspective. It is all about relationships. Raising good, solid kids who are secure in their family. It is about adding a child to our family that gives people pause, making them stop and think about blessings and opportunity and love. It is about being part of a community that cares for each other, and taking the time to put a smile on someone elses face. And it is about having a faith, deep down in your roots, that allows you to see what it is really all about.

Pumpkin Cuties

2008-10-30T08:37:00.003-05:00

It was pumpkin carving time at our house. Great fun was had by all and here are the results! (not sure why it is such a small pic?) The creativity was flowing and Sassy Spice was quite taken with all things pumpkin!

She did good!

2008-10-28T12:01:00.002-05:00

Miss Sunshine did just fine with her MRI this am. She wasn't real happy when they took her away or when she woke up and we weren't there. But they were quick to bring her back to me and she was soo happy to see her mama. We will get a report in the next few weeks.

Here is a pic from the weekend...have ya seen two cuter babes?

I've been tagged

2008-10-27T20:55:00.002-05:00

By Cheryl over at schearjoy.blogspot.com. This tag is where I am supposed to list 7 weird or random things about myself...

1. I am constantly trying to decide what to be when I grow up. I am going to have to come back in so many lives to accomplish all I think I would like to try! (Broadway musical star, athletic trainer, pastor, aid worker in Africa, Christian singer)

2. I am a hopeless romantic and love to escape life as I know it in a cheesy book or movie.

3. Journaling and writing keep me sane, help me figure out where I am heading.

4. I never went to prom (and this still kinda ticks me off!)

5. I have a closet FULL of clothes that I don't really like.

6. There are 40 legs at our house right now (6 humans, 2 dogs, 1 cat, 2 kittens, 2 gecko's)

7.I have ALWAYS wanted a daughter...and I must say, I am now complete!

I tag whoever is still reading this blog...not sure if anyone is!

I didn't fall off the face of the world...

2008-10-26T20:38:00.002-05:00

I am still alive. Life with 4 kids and a business just seems to keep me hoping a bit more than I thought.

We are all doing well. Sassy spice continues to thrive. Her cold is finally starting to clear up and she hasn't had nearly the coughing. It is so nice to have her feeling good. She is close to walking and has been scooting around with her walker all weekend. She got to meet her Seattle aunt and uncle as well as her new baby cousin this weekend. It was so fun to have the whole huge family together.

J was elected student body president this week at school. We are so proud! He continues to thrive and I am loving it right now because he is in a mom mode...I am still cool! Yay!

Sassy Spice has an MRI on Tuesday. She had some seizures when she was in care, and although well managed on meds, we are getting a baseline to see what might be going on. We are really not concerned as she is really thriving. I am not looking forward to her being sedated, but that is the choice we have for now. Keep her in your prayers.

I will try and post some new pictures soon. As for now, it is time for Brothers and Sisters and a tidge of ice cream!!

All Creatures Great and Small

2008-10-20T12:47:00.002-05:00

We are getting in to the swing of life with all of our new additions. Since the weekend we acquired a new gecko and two newborn kittens to add to the zoo. Z-man is now lobby-ing for a hamster. What's a few more legs? So that puts me at 4 children, 2 dogs, 3 cats, 2 gecko's, and a husband ( I think I am going to keep the husband count to one, although a wife wouldn't be all bad...she could tag team the laundry and never ending poop-patrol. ) And the really crazy thing is...there is room for more. I am not going looking for anything else, but should something or someone need a place, we seem to be able to find it!

Baby girl is doing well. Still has a bit of a boogey nose, but we have found the joys of nasal spray and the boogie sucker!! She finally slept through the whole night all night, no wake ups!

As it is my day off, I best get off the computer and get something done! The zoo needs tending!

Don't forget

2008-10-17T13:49:00.003-05:00

I promised that I would not forget. I promised that I would pray, every day, for health and food, and peace. Ethiopia is a part of my heart. Faces of people I love, honor, and am humbled by are burned into my soul. And my global family is hurting. It is soo easy to get consumed by the election polls, the wild ride that is the Dow, gas prices and having to "tighten our belts". We don't have a clue. We are worried about losing our lattes, our SUV's, and our McMansions. We don't have a clue. We all need a huge kick in the ass...a big old reality check that tells us what is really important. Another ET adoptive mom shared this link. These are the faces from my daughters village. This could just as easily have been her. http://www.noorimages.com/index.php?id=latest_stories This is my global family, and because you love the little girl who came home to my arms...they are your family too. Promise me you won't forget. Promise me you too will pray for healing and health. And if in the tightening of your belts, you find there might just be a little extra, consider giving to http://www.doctorswithoutborders.org/donate/?msource=AZD0408H1001. They helping in Sunshine's village...they are helping my family.

Cursed by the blog-gods

2008-10-16T18:34:00.002-05:00

So did you notice that slightly cocky tone I had when I mentioned in the last post that the boogers were gone, and she was thriving? Obviously I ticked off the blog-god because guess who was up ALL night crying and snorting and needing mommy's flesh to rub her face all over?? Yes that would be Snotty Spice! I had no sooner pushed the post button when she started to stir in her crib...then I tucked myself in and it all went downhill from there. And she was crying a kind of cry I haven't heard before. Is she starting to do some of her grieving? Was she having a nightmare? Was she just not feeling good? This is when it is hard to help her...when I realize she hasn't been mine forever, and has just been in my arms a few short weeks. And so we walked and rocked and shared some tears together. She finally fell into a sound sleep at about 4:30 and then was up for the day at 6:30. She was pretty happy throughout the day,( wish I could say the same for me!) but still a little off. And the boogers kept flowing. I am envisioning that mucinex ad where the mucous guys are having a party...they must be throwing a lalapaloosa in her little body. I am truly praying that tonight is better and we both get some sleep. She would survive another all night rock fest....me, while that is another story. On the walking front, she was carried much of the day today so not as much practice time...oh darn! Tomorrows another day...with new adventures...

She Stands!

2008-10-15T22:33:00.003-05:00

So little Miss Sassy Spice stood up all by herself today. How dare she!! At the shop, she found a great walker wagon and cruised un-assisted around the shop. Wanna place bets on when she will walk on her own?? I don't think it will be long.

The other breakthrough today was no boogers and hardly any coughing. That is a first since she has been in our arms. Yay! She is thriving so much!

The kids have 2 days off for teacher conferences. I am feeling guilty that I didn't plan anything fun to do...guess they will just have to be entertained by their sissy. B and I have a date planned for tomorrow afternoon, he is needing a little mama time. Otherwise, it will be time to play in the leaves, maybe hike the nature trail, make pretzels...should be fun.

Silly spice is stirring in her crib, time to go settle her back down. I'll be looking for the bets on walking!

And we shall call her Silly Spice

2008-10-13T10:32:00.002-05:00

We have the newest Spice Girl and her name is Silly Spice. She came to this name sort of by default! We knew she had a spicy personality and she is very silly...so Silly Spice it is! This am she is jammin to Motown Love Songs, rockin in her rocker and trying to eat kleenex. Yum! Last night was the first night she has slept without coughing! Yay! Today she got to come and cut her first commercial with mom. She charmed the gang as usual. Mom is hoping the afternoon might hold a nice long nap, after a weekend of leaves and sandbox play, the floors need more attention than Silly Spice's knees provide!

We are adding to our family again in a few weeks...yes we are expecting....kittens!! Our wayward cat had one night of passion and for this we will pay. So we are adding to the 2 dogs, 1 cat, 1 gecko and 4 children...anyone want a great Christmas Kitten?? We would love to share!

Slow Down Baby Girl

2008-10-11T21:09:00.002-05:00

We are experiencing baby development at warp speed. We have gone from slow crawling to fast crawling to pulling up to cruising all in 2 weeks. We also have words now...mama, dada, josh, zzzaa (zach) ahh-done, mmmmmm. She is soo stinkin cute. She is back on antibiotics to kick the resp bug that remains, we will be glad to have her existing without a cough.

On Friday, she had an MD aapointment related to some minor medical issues. Part of the intake was to fill out a very detailed form about her history. It really hit me for the first time how much we will never know about her life before us. It makes me sad for her and makes me realize how very important the bits and pieces we do have will be for all of us. It is hard to believe she has only been with us for 3 weeks...she just fits so well. We are so totally blessed!

It's been a hard days night....

2008-10-09T21:25:00.003-05:00

What a day! Started at work at 10 with a rather sick baby girl. She just can't shake this resp infection and she added a nice boogey nose to go with it. She was asleep in the sling by 10:30 and slept until 12. We zoomed home for lunch and were at the school by 12:30 to pick up the brothers for their dentist appointment. Dad met us at the dentist so I could take M to the pediatrician to see what was going on. She also had an appointment with the neurologist today. She got to have a blood draw, chest x-ray, then more blood drawn for the Neuro! Over all they all thought she looks good and the poor ladies in the lab were almost ready to cry as hard as she was. After 4 hours in the clinic, we were finally on our way home with new meds and a few appointments for follow up. Next was our 1st post placement with our social worker. It went well and sunshine remained sunny despite her long day. Bed is sounding awfully good.

Wee Small Hours of the morning...

2008-10-08T12:02:00.002-05:00

...they still exist in case you were concerned! Miss M was up coughing and boogey all night on Monday night. This after a great adventure to the cities where she shopped until mama dropped. It was an all night walking, rocking, booger fest the likes of which I had happily forgotten about in the 4 years since there has been a baby in the house! Yesterday was a very long day...and the girl only napped for 45 min...not a great way to recover from a sleepless night. Last night was much better, she was only up at 1 and 3 for a very short bit, so today feels a little more sane. We are "working" the boutique this am. She is currently sound asleep in the new Ergo carrier (LOVE this carrier....might have to start carrying them in the shop!) I am hoping she gets a great nap in and I accomplish something more than blogging!!

Tomorrow is crazy...3 boys to the dentist at 1, M to the MD at 2:30, social worker follow up visit at 5. Yieks! Somewhere in there I must do a smidge of cleaning too..I think I might need those wee small hours of the morning to get it all done. Have to say however, I am loving this crazy!

Back to work...

Giggle Girl

2008-10-05T08:59:00.002-05:00

Yesterday was the day of the belly laugh. She was hilarious and truly rolling on the floor laughing. She continues to blossom more each day and her spicy personality is wonderful. I do have one small bone to pick with her...if given the choice between a truck and a doll, 9 times out of 10, she goes for the truck! Darling girl, mama has already raised the truck brigade, it is time for baby dolls and pink frills...so just forget about those silly old trucks and play with this huge collection of sweet, cuddly dolls!! So help me if my precious princess is a trucker at heart!

We had a gorgeous day yesterday, perfect fall...and I didn't get to spend nearly enough time enjoying it. Too much laundry and work to do. Today is rainy and cool and really feels like a chilly fall day. We have family coming for the afternoon and decided to opt out of church. Too many new faces are still hard.

It is amazing to me that we have only been home 2 weeks, feels like months! We are finding our groove. Now if we can just get her to get up with the sun at 7 instead of the moon at 5!

Off to fold more laundry and maybe even take a shower...now there is a novel idea! happy Sunday!

It's Love

2008-10-02T22:20:00.002-05:00

Not sure how it is possible, but I fall a little more in love with her each day! Today was our first day back at the boutique. She did great and charmed the socks off all who entered. (except for the 2 that thought she was a he...guess the flowers on her outfit and shoes weren't bold enough!) I did discover I won't get much actual work done with her there, but that's okay, she's worth it! She continues to wrap her brothers tighter and tighter around her finger. She calls, then run! It is hilarious. She also passed the shopping test on Wed. We spend almost the whole day at the mall, meeting up with friends and buying some bigger clothes. She slept, ate, smiled and sang her way through the day and has some very cute clothes to show for it. Tomorrow night is the homecoming game at the HS, and here in small town America, it is an event not to be missed, so we will outfit her in warm duds, and teach her to cheer loud for the home team! OOH we love this girl!

It's a 3 ring circus! (or maybe 6!)

2008-09-30T18:42:00.002-05:00

If you listen really closely, you will be able to hear the da-da-daa-da-da-da, da-daa-da-da-da-da circus song playing in the background. Yes ladies and gentleman, children of all ages, my life is a circus. I can juggle bottles filled with a mix of Ethiopian and Similac formula, while changing a diaper, dispensing amoxicillan, talking with the DFL, and letting the dogs out. I can bake apple pies, while correcting home-work, getting baby toys from the dogs mouth, and changing outfits on a poopy baby. (and no, there is no poop or dog slobber in the pie) I am so stinking incredible, I amaze myself! Okay, or maybe I am really sleep deprived and a little shell shocked by the way my world is happily upside down. I also am wearing my nurse hat again, in my very own hospital...J has some horrilbe strep throat with mouth ulcers and has been home from school since Friday. The babes is running a temp since Monday, but stays quite happy so I don't think it is too serious. Above the kitchen sink is my very own dispensary...amox, phenobarb, magic numbing mouth wash, zithromax, tylenol and motrin...and about a zillion med cups. I am praying that J dog is well enough to go back to school tomorrow for at least 1/2 a day. I need to go shopping for this daughter of mine. Most of the clothes I squirreled away during the wait are too small and too summery. Who'd a thought she would come home needing 12 month clothes! I also really need to get out of the house, to somewhere other than the clinic or the pharmacy. and oh yeah, I think I run a business too...I should maybe get back to that too! At least now I can add Ring Master to my ever changing resume!

The New Normal

2008-09-27T19:28:00.003-05:00

We have been home for a week. It feels like sunshine has been a part of our lives forever, yet we are still on a very high learning curve. I love this child with all my heart, mind and soul. There is no distinction between my love for her or any of the boys. "Birthing" her was just as spiritual, emotional, and even painful as birthing the boys. I feel so incredibly blessed. I am loving the new normal...here's a peak:
Waking up to sweet sounds in the crib next to me, with a tiny girl, eyes full of awe that I am still there.

A morning ritual of making up bottles to last through the day and sharing my cup of coffee and paper time with a bowl of mush oatmeal and the squeals of delight from sunshine.

Sitting on the carpet in the living room, playing with toys or playing the kiss and crawl game...(I have NEVER sat on the living room rug before.)

Collecting stray socks all around the house, which has always been normal, but now there are some cute pink lacy ones thrown in the mix.

I can spend an entire afternoon just rocking her while she sleeps, and the laundry and the bills, and the kitchen dishes will wait.

Learning the many faces of sunshine. What means happy, what means sad, what is a fake cry, what is a real cry, what means I love you.

Watching the boys as they love their sister with an unconditional, boundless love that just seeps out of them.

Finally feeling complete. Granted there is debt to our eyeballs, it is a horrible time to own a small business, we have one kid down with strep, and the laundry for 4 children is endless, but I don't care. I am complete. My family is perfect, and I fully intend to relax and relish the new normal.

Ouch baby!

2008-09-26T11:00:00.002-05:00

Welcome to America sweet girl...we are now going to expose you to American Medicine...complete with 4 shots, 2 vials of blood, a chest x-ray and a sparkly pink bracelet to make it all better.

Miss Sunshine had her "welcome home" physical today. She did very well considering. She is on the US height and weight charts which is exciting in and of itself! Granted she is only in the 5th percentiles, but she at least made the charts! The MD was incredibly pleased with her attachment, her development, and her overall charming personality! She put her on Zithromax to clear up whatever resp bug still remains...but felt she was doing very well, one week home! We got to hear her cry louder and longer than ever before, which in a weird way was okay too. Overall she continues to thrive, and we are seeing more and more of her sweet spirit every day!

Happy Sunshine

2008-09-24T15:57:00.006-05:00

She is a happy girl! Other than a nasty cough that is inturrupting sleep, she is doing so well. She has done the meet and greet at church, the boy's school, and had an adventure to Target to get diapers. She is now the reining queen of the castle and has her big brothers incredibly well trained (I drop the toy, you pick it up...many many times over) She has the most amazing disposition and only puts up a stink when she is ready to go to bed, or when the bottle runs out and she is sure there should be more.

Mom and dad are adjusting pretty well too. Other than a bit of a lack of sleep and a house that may not be clean for several more years, all is well. It is a bit of a shock to the system to go back to the baby stage after being away for 5 years. When we ventured to Target, we forgot a storller and had to figure out what to do with a sleeping baby. Our learning curve is high, but it is coming back quickly!

I really haven't had much time to focus on the trip and all that happened. I am looking forward to having time to process sometime in the next weeks and months.

Here are a couple more pics of Miss Sunshine!

I know all you really want is pictures!

2008-09-22T21:13:00.008-05:00

Loading the luggage and saying goodbye to the kids

Arriving in Addis, all the luggage made it! Yay!

Waiting to go and meet our girl!

A tukul along the road to Hosanna..Finally holding our girl! Arriving in DC,

The Rest of the story!

2008-09-22T18:45:00.002-05:00

Monday Morning in Africa
It is 6 am. After a very good night sleep, I am ready to go! Today we get to bring Meron back to the guest house for the morning. I am so excited to have her all to ourselves for a few hours and see how she is with us in unfamiliar surroundings. We didn’t get to see her yesterday as we traveled south. That was really hard because once we were back, I so wanted to give her some extra hugs and kisses.

I am in love with Africa. It is not an easy place. The level of poverty is mind blowing and has rocked me to my core. However, the spirit here, the tenacity and the genuine love for life are what make it so amazing. I especially love the children. As we traveled south yesterday, our bus was greeted by children in every town we passed through and when we stopped in Hosanna, we were surrounded by children wanting their pictures taken and then to look at them on the camera. I would love to spend more time here actually seeing more of the day to day life. Our trip is very focused and we are definitely catered to, which is hard and helpful all at the same time. I can see so much out the windows of the bus and experience it all from a distance, but would love to have the time to really sit down and talk with people, hear their stories and their dreams, It is because of this that I know I will be back to Africa to do more, to experience more, to learn more. And somehow in my life back home, I will do something for the children of this country, because they have touched me in a way I cannot easily explain.

A little more about Miss Meron. She is so very snuggly and whether or not she has figured out who we are, she is definitely attached. When we have been with her she has wanted to be held and to stare into our faces and touch our hair.(she has loved running her fingers through my hair and rubbing Eric’s beard.) She doesn’t want to explore too far away from us and will scoot to get a toy, but come right back. She LOVES looking outside and waving. We are anxious to take her outside today. We stood by an open window on Sat and she got the sweetest expression and reached out to touch the air, joy all over her face. The only time we have heard her really cry is when we had to put her down to have her diaper changed by the nanny. She didn’t like that one bit! Otherwise she has been very mellow so far. I am sure the other shoe may drop, but it sounds like she has adjusted well so far with her transitions, so we hope this will be the same. We’ll see how today goes, away from the familiar, and just with us. I can’t wait!!

Monday Evening
The morning was a joy! Meron Shita was so fun to be with. We loaded the bus and headed to the care center. When we got there Ato Girma said “Go get them and come right back “ So we headed into the care center. Meron Shita was standing in the first crib by the door and got a huge smile when we walked in! I scooped her up and she snuggled in for a kiss. Then we said goodbye to the nannies and headed outside. She LOVED being outside and giggled and smiled a ton. We loaded back on to the bus and she took her spot on my lap looking out the window. She liked sitting in my lap, looking at dad the best. She was sweet and chatty and very snuggly. We came back and came to our house to bond. It was sooo nice to have her all to ourselves without anyone else around. She was very chatty and playful, and had fun with all the toys. We got her to take a bottle which was a huge relief. We gave her just 4 oz to start so as not to waste any formula. She downed it and wanted more! So dad made another 4 oz which she also downed. She crawled around some and snuggled more. It was a great start! It started to pour rain right about the time we needed to go to the other guest house to eat. We bundled her up in the moby and a rain jacket and hat and headed out. Ato Girma met us with umbrellas. On the quick walk over in the rain, she fell sound asleep. When we got the house, the nannies where waiting there to feed her. They took that sleeping baby and tried their hardest to wake her up…ending up splashing her head and feet with cold water! She did wake up and they quickly fed her her soup. Then it was back on the bus to the care center. As we were leaving, a car pulled up and said they needed Shita for her embassy medical exam, so I handed off an almost asleep child to a nanny who took her away. Kinda strange, but the last time we will have to part.

In the afternoon, we toured the Sipra MCH center. It was amazing to see all they are doing without much to work with. Then we toured the CHSFS school. It is a beautiful schoool and Eric and I made a commitment to send them supplies etc. Then we went to the ET history museum. For a non museum loving girl it was not too exciting, but it was quick. Then we faced a very long drive through insane traffic back to the guest house. After a great dinner of pizza, we came back to our guest house to pack up for tomorrow. We get the kids right away in the am, and then we go to the Embassy. It has been a long time since I packed a diaper bag…but so fun. We cleaned up our room and got all the baby gear arranged…cause tomorrow baby girl is ours!!!

9/15
Didn’t sleep well last night. My brain was torn between home and here. I am really missing the boys today. I need to hug them and inhale their scent. I miss then so very much!

Today I become a mother to 4. WOW! I am looking forward to having the next two days to focus on Meron and figure her out a bit more before we hit 17 hours on a plane together!! It is Embassy this afternoon and then she is ours!!! Can’t wait!

9/16
It is6 am, and I am watching my sweet pink-footie pajama’d girl sleep. She is perfection! Yesterday was a long day, but wonderful all the same! The Good Bye ceremony at the Care Center was wonderful. She was very, very loved! She was brought to us dressed in a traditional dress in blue and white with a big bow on her head. She immediately searched us out andzeroed in as soon as she saw us! She knows we are hers! After the party, it was a quick lunch then off to the Embassy. It was crowded, but went off without a hitch. One more step done! We were able to confirm flights and reserve a bassinet for the way home. that will be a huge help! After all the running around, we came back and just hung out. She pooped out of her first outfit, had a bath, pooded out the next outfit, had a change, then snuggled into sleep. She woke up for a bottle, took it,then fell back asleep and is still sleeping now! Wish I could say the same for myself. I think I heard every wiggle, cough and turn she made all night!

We are hoping to hire a driver later today to go and finish shopping. Can't come home empty handed! We'll prob also start to pack because tomorrow we go home!!!

9/17-Thursday
How can I be so in love already?? Little miss continues to be amazing. We have had a few good cries...she has a horrible diaper rash and diarreah which isn't helping! But, after a few good snuggles she is great. She started saying mama today...she has had daddy down pat since the get go. She is so fun, animated, andsilly. She is going to have so much fun entertaining those boys at home!

We are almost packed. Meskala is ready to clean the room, so we need to move the suitcases out. We are hoping they are all under weight! I am hoping I have enough outfits saved out for little miss...we are big on blow outs! Also seems to have helped that we moved up a size in diapers...thank goodness for the left behinds of other travelers!

This is prob the last post till we are home, then I promise pictures!

HOME!!!!!

2008-09-20T09:35:00.002-05:00

Hello!! We are home, safe and sound and completely jet lagged. Sunshine is absolutely perfect. She is the happiest, most fun, silly child I have ever met. She is fully attached (esp to mom) and so far isn't too overwhelmed by all the brother attention! (I have never seen elementary school boys so excited to bathe a 1 yr old in my life!) The flight home was great, except that our party animal preferred to chat with all the people on the plane rather than sleep. Stinker! She traveled so well. Other than a horrible diaper rash and a cough that is being treated she is healthy and happy. I have a couple of other posts to put up and tons of pictures...once we get a little more settled I will get to those up...but in the in between, just wanted you to know that we are home, exhausted and elated!!

Saturday Morning in Addis

2008-09-13T13:48:00.002-05:00

It is just after 5 am. The call to prayer is echoing and the birds are just starting to sing. I was so tired last night that I went to bed at 8, so now at 5 I am ready to start the day. Today will be another full one. We start at 9 at the office then head to the care center. Today we have a team meeting and get to meet with everyone one who has been caring for Meron until now. We will get to see video of her time here as well. This afternoon we will go to AHOPE (another orphanage) and then do some shopping. This evening we are going to venture out with John and Melanie and go to Metro Pizza for dinner. It will be great to get out and walk the streets some. Other than the walk from this guest house to the one that serves meals, we pretty much have been confined to the bus.

We have a very large group this week. Lots of families have brought their children with and there are some other relatives along as well. Meal times are very crowded, and the bus is full to overflowing. The long ride to Hosanna will be interesting. Although we miss out on some of the comradery of hanging out with all the families in the bigger guest house, it has been really nice to have the chance to get away to our own quiet spot. And I think it will be esp nice once we have Meron here with us, less overwhelming!

Good Evening From Africa

2008-09-13T13:44:00.001-05:00

Well, she is perfect! We had a wonderful first meeting. She was standing in the window waving when we came into the care center. Then we came up to the room she was in and she was all smiles and waves. She is very petit, and oh so sweet! She has long eye lashes and the sweetest little dimples. She is pretty attached already to mom and she is getting to like dad's beard. She is very snuggly and likes to look out the window in her room. We got to spend almost 2 hours with her in the morning and then went back this afternoon. She was very happy to see us come back. We are quite in love and can't wait to have more time with her tomorrow! She definitely wanted to only be with us, and didn't want to be put down or be too far from us. She has a bit of a rattley cough and several of her room-mates have had pnemonia we are praying she stays healthy! She loves "sammies" kisses and giggles when you kiss her feet. We got to feed her this morning. She had a BIG bowl of a thick creamy soup. She chowed most of it down. It is amazing to watch the nannies feed and care for these kids. They truly love them. She doesn't have very strong leg muscles yet, so that is something we will work on. But boy can she snuggle! She just sort of melts into you! She seems younger than 1 to me and definitely still feels very much like a baby. I have a hunch she will flourish with a lot of love and attention.

Good Morning from Africa!

2008-09-13T13:40:00.002-05:00

It is just 6am. The grey light of dawn is just beginning to shine. It is raining lightly. The air is full of bird songs, barking dogs and the call to prayer. It is quite beautiful. I have been awake since about 4…just too excited to sleep any longer!

The flight over was relatively easy. Long, and a bit cramped, but a very smooth flight. Landing and getting through customs was easy and quite pleasant. We Americans could use to learn a few lessons in kindness from our African friends!

We met up with 5 of the couples we will be sharing the week with. There are only 3 of us adopting babies, the rest are adopting older children. We are a diverse group, and it will be fun to get to know each other better.

The drive to the guest house was amazing. Addis proved to be a very vibrant and dynamic city even in the dark of night in the rain. It was a wonderful assault on the senses as we navigated bumpy roads, dodged people and cars, and watched so many sights all around us. I think for me it was love at first sight!

Our guest house is wonderful. We have a nice room with a balcony. We are in the older guest house which is around the corner from the main one. There are just 3 families staying here, along with 4 volunteers who are new college grads, here to teach English. We got unpacked and settled in quickly, then it was time to sleep.

I slept great until about 4am, when the excitement over rode any practical reason to stay asleep. I will meet my daughter in a few short hours. I will finally hold her in my arms, kiss her sweet cheeks and inhale her smell. My almost 2 year journey is almost done, and the adventure of a lifetime is just beginning!

Now I'm Counting Minutes Instead of Days

2008-09-12T08:23:00.002-05:00

I woke up this morning in Africa! How cool is that? I'm certainly not in my big, old rambling house this morning. The sounds, smells, and scenery are quite different from my usual Friday morning.

Our trip went well. We arrived in Addis about 8:00 p.m. last night and had no problem getting through the airport - visas, money, and customs. We checked into the smaller of the guest houses and are sharing it with two other couples and four college-age volunteers who are here long term. During the night we heard lots of barking dogs and then at 5:00 we heard the Muslim call to prayer. We got some sleep but everyone was awake around 4:00 a.m., so we chatted and anticipated the day ahead.

We are now getting ready to go meet Meron. I can't stop grinning, my tummy is tumbling with butterflies, and my heart feels like it might burst in the next couple of hours.

More later....

We're Really, Really, Really Going!

2008-09-10T19:59:00.002-05:00

As my mom sends this blog I am winging my way across the Atlantic to my daughter. The day finally did come! We said teary goodbyes last night after dinner (well, teary for the adults - not so much for the kids who seem to be doing just fine!) and left the boys in the hands of Nana and Papa. We drove to my in-laws, repacked one more time and slept pretty well. After a nice slow morning they took us and our bags to the airport. My mother in law said we looked like pack horses!

We came in under the weight limit on all four bags and no one challenged the weight of our carry ons. Off to Washington DC and Dulles Airport. We took a very deep breath once we were airborne. It is real. We are really going. Baby Girl, here we come!

We arrived on time at Dulles, met John and Melanie and had a wonderful pizza dinner with lots and lots of conversation (big surprise!) We called home and talked to the boys and Nana - everything is going well there - so we are off - missing our boys but knowing they are having a grand time.

We will arrive in Addis about 11:00 a.m. Thursday morning your time. With a heart full of anticipation .....

Social Report and we are off.....

2008-09-09T14:20:00.003-05:00

We got the social report today and wow is she perfect!! She is just beautiful and is supposedly the sweetest and most calm baby in the bunch ! She is not walking yet, but loves to crawl around and bang toys on the floor. I am sooo excited I can hardly stand it!

We give kisses and hugs to everyone and will post soon! I am off to finish the last minute packing etc!

T minus 1 day and counting....

2008-09-08T20:50:00.002-05:00

It's Monday night. Just tucked my big boys in for what may be the last time before we go. We are planning to leave for the cities sometime tomorrow night, but not sure what time. They are all holding up pretty good. The oldest is actually having the hardest time tonight I think. So we have had lots of good hanging out time tonight!

Tonight we are going to finish the packing so tomorrow can just be for last minutes. I have a hunch there might be lots of those!

I am making a promise to try my hardest to blog while we are in ET. The internet is a bit fussy, but I will try my darndest to keep everyone posted about everything going on. My mom will be posting for me, so she may add a little editorial comment here and there as well!!

As for our return, we are going for a small contingent at the airport. We don't want to overwhelm this poor girl...and we will have been traveling for a dog of a long time and will be soo very anxious to see our big kids! I promise to share the moment in the blogosphere!

Once we are home, our number one job will be to integrate Sunshine into our family, and help her come to trust and know us as HER family. To that end, we will be the prime care-takers for quite a while. Initially, we will be the ones to hold her, change her, bathe her, feed her etc. We won't be leaving her with sitters, or putting her in the nursery. We have to revert back a ways to that newborn stage, meeting her every need, developing a strong attachment, nurture will be kicking in to high gear, as we get to know her nature! We would love help with the big kids, meals, etc. But know we aren't trying to keep any of you from loving on sweet baby girl, we just have to teach her who her family is!

It is really real..the reality of all of this still hasn't completely sunk in. Wonder when it will??!!

Sunshine sends her love!

2008-09-07T20:21:00.003-05:00

I got the best e-mail in the world tonight. A traveler who was in ET recently got to hug my little one. She said she was crawling around and very smiley and chatty. She said her cheeks are nice and filled out and she was just lovely! Oh now I can't wait to have her in MY arms!!

We are almost packed. Now we play the suitcase shuffle and get all the suitcases under the 50lb weight limit. The next two days are going to FLY by. Tomorrow there is lots of shop stuff to finish up as well as a little more house to clean as well as a grocery run and a trip to the MD to get my final shots (oops, forgot that I guess!) Then it is our last night at home. I still get pretty teary thinking of leaving the boys, but I am soo excited to see Meron. I know once I am on the road I will be fine.

Okay, lots left to do before I sleep. More on what you can expect from ET tomorrow!

Thoughts at 4 days and counting...

2008-09-06T07:22:00.002-05:00

It is fairly early on a Sat am. My house is very quiet as the boys are enjoying a morning of sleeping in. I am a mixed bag of emotions. On the one hand I am soo excited I am giddy. On the other hand, I am nervous, sad, and full of mama worry. I didn't think it would bother me to leave the big boys. They are in great hands and I know they will thrive. And I know once I am on the plane, I will be fine too, but in the mean time, I have a bit of a pit in my tummy. I want to snuggle them just a little more, kiss on them just a little more, enjoy every last moment of our family as it is before things turn upside down and inside out. I feel this huge need to memorize every little bit of them, and imprint it on my brain, so it will carry me across the world and back. I know when we return, we will be changed, they will be changed, and life will have a new normal. So today as I finish the long list of to -do's, extra snuggles will surpass everything else, and hopefully the mama tears can remain tucked inside my eyes!

So much to do, I am accomplishing nothing!

2008-09-05T16:43:00.002-05:00

I just sat down and made the list of all lists, to be checked off over the next 2-3 days. I have so much to do. Why am I sitting here blogging? That my friends is called panic...elation...exhaustion...and a big ole case of reality setting in! And blogging about it gives me time to hopefully put it all in perspective!

I was hoping to be done at work today, be able to walk out, confident all was great. Wouldn't you know it, the credit card machine decided to have a permanent error. This is not a good thing in retail! So needless to say, I will be chasing that around tomorrow. Yieks.

Home is good, packing is going pretty well. Still no social report, which is kind of disappointing, but we have a few days left. (holy crap...we only have a few days left!)

Tonight we are taking the evening off, and enjoying the HS football game, (cross-town rivalry tonight!) getting a good nights sleep, then hitting the ground running, and I think running until we head out of town on Tuesday night. Yowzers....time is gonna fly!

3 Cheers for Clear Mascara!

2008-09-04T09:54:00.002-05:00

Oui! Today was the first day of school. The morning that I sent my sweet little B-man off into the hallowed halls of education. He was ready! With a juicy 5 yr old kiss and a quick hug, he was in line, backpack in place, singing the school song. And I was tearing up.

The 3rd grader had a tougher time, with a few tears in his eyes. Not uncommon for my sweet, sensitive one. But he put on a brave face and went to join the big kids on the playground. The 5th grader had planters warts treated last night. He was hurting this am. I felt soo bad for him, because he was trying to be the ultra-cool 5th grade dude, and he was really hurting. We're hoping the motrin and mole skin kicked in!

After hanging out with the other rather despondent mommies on the the playground until we really did start to look foolish, I headed to my car and lost it! I had my Sunshine Adoption mix in and it was playing Child Of Mine by Carol King. Boy did that start the water-works. I didn't think it would be so hard today. But B-man and I have been joined at the hip since he was born. He has been my side kick, my right hand man, my snuggle bud. Last night as I tucked him in, he reached up for one huge hug. "Mom, we better snuggle good cause tomorrow there won't be time" Oh little man, there will ALWAYS be time for snuggles.

The excitement of all that is to come is building every moment. Hoping for a social report in the next day or two...today is one of my last days at the shop for a bit. Needless to say, my mind is elsewhere this day...in Africa, in Roosevelt Elementary...with ALL my babies!

Okay...NOW I AM EXCITED!!!!

2008-09-03T07:55:00.002-05:00

It's like the night before Christmas, the first day of school, the feeling you get when you have your first crush...all rolled into one. How am I ever going to make it another week??? Yesterday I was beginning to wonder when or if this feeling would come. I was overwhelmed, and stressed with all there is left to do. But this morning, I woke up to a beautiful sunrise, and as I rolled over, there was Sunshine's picture staring at me with that look of "when are you coming, already!!" and my heart just burst with joy. I am traveling to Africa to get my daughter in 7 short days. This child I have waited a lifetime for is almost in my arms. I am giddy, giggly and as my son said, "mom you're acting kinda silly today!" So right they are. Silly with joy, showered in blessings, and overcome with thankfulness! Alleluia!!

One week and counting!

2008-09-02T07:44:00.002-05:00

Wow! A week from today, we will getting ready to tuck the kids in one more time, then hitting the road. It is so amazing to me!

We had a pretty good weekend. Sat was get stuff done here, Sunday was church and a trip out of town, Monday, I was out with some sort of tummy bug. I am praying no one else gets it! I laid low all day and feel much better today. Just glad it was this week and not next.

It's a big week. E started classes this am. Tonight is teacher conferences, tomorrow, our youth choir at church kicks off, Thursday school starts and my baby goes to kindergarten, and then it is the weekend again! And amongst all that, I have to work, finish packing, and start cleaning...this week is going to fly by!

Nothing much more to share yet. We are hoping for our social report on Sunshine, full of pics and her likes, dislikes and schedule. I can't wait to see some new pics...hopefully a smiley one!!

Off to conquer the day!!

Showers of Blessings

2008-08-31T11:20:00.004-05:00

Last week, we asked our home congregation to help us fill a suitcase with donations for the care center. Our church has been wonderful throughout this journey, supporting us with prayers and many kind-nesses. Today was no exception. The boys have taken this project on themselves and they sat in the commons area, with a bright red suitcase, eager for donations. They were not disappointed. The suitcase is almost filled, we have several monetary donations, and so many promises of prayers, offers to help with the boys, and so many people so excited to welcome Sunshine into our church family. I was over whelmed by the love and care of my church family. We trurly are blessed beyond measure.

Warp Speed

2008-08-30T14:36:00.002-05:00

Time feels like it is going at warp speed, and yet not quick enough. I am amazed that we only have 1 week and 4 days left before travel. Yet I am equally amazed that we are still waiting.

I am finding myself in an interesting place. I still can't let go and imagine all the moments that lie ahead. I can visualize saying goodbye to the kids (and crying), waking up at my in laws and getting ready for a full 24 hrs of traveling. I can imagine the plane ride, meeting John and Melanie at the airport, hanging out in Dulles, pacing the narrow walkways on the airplane, high above the ocean below. I can even imagine landing in Africa, the smell, the unfamiliarity. I can imagine getting to the guest house and settling in to our home away from home, unpacking and making it feel like home. I can imagine not sleeping, although fatigue will plague me...and this is where it ends.

For the many years I taught childbirth, I always encouraged my couples to imagine themselves in labor, what they were doing, how they were coping. It helped with the uncertain-ness of all that was to come. I think that is what I am trying to do, but I just can't. I get to that point and I just freeze. Am I really still protecting my heart? Is it just such an overwhelming experience that I can't go there yet? I don't know...I am hoping as each day gets closer, I can imagine more, and try and prepare myself, even just a tiny bit, for all that is to come!

This Mama is for Obama!!

2008-08-29T11:46:00.002-05:00

WOW. Obama's speech last night rocked the house and then some. I LOVE this man and the hope, ideas, and plans he is bringing to this nation. We have had enough...it is time.

I loved watching the speech last night, esp when the lenses of the cameras focused on Michelle and the girls. His daughters are beautiful and I couldn't help but think how wonderful it will be, as my daughter is growing up, to have a family that looks like her, heading our country. It gives me goose bumps still.

On another note... have your notices how adorable my daughter is???? I just fall in love with her more each day, and in less than 2 weeks, she will be in my arms. I love you sweet baby!

It is the last weekend before school starts. Alleluia! It is time for those who fight like cats and dogs to go have their minds stretched a bit, and not live on top of each other, but be seperated by the hallowed halls of education!

Off to pretend I am working! In reality, I am totally already on that plane to Africa!

Sleepless in Minnesota

2008-08-28T07:45:00.002-05:00

I must be more anxious about all of this then I thought. My sub conscious is having a hay-day and taking it out on me in my dreams! I have been having a load of totally bizarre dreams. Like the one where my dad traveled with me instead of E and we had the paperwork in the sealed envelope for immigration with the explicit instructions to not open it until we reached immigration in the US, and dad opened it because there was chocolate inside that he needed! Or last nights dream that we had to go and find Sunshine somewhere in this huge hotel/market and they wouldn't tell us what room to find her in, only that she was there and our job as parents was to know where! I also woke up at about 2am and couldn't get back to sleep until at least 3. I am not supposed to be sleep deprived before I GO to Et!

On the plus side, I think I am just about packed. I sorted back through Sunshine's suitcase last night and shifted things around a bit, then started in on my stuff and except for 2 things I need to wash, I think I am there. That is a great feeling! E made his packing list last night, so that was a relief as well. We are taking one suitcase from the agency full of their donations/necessities, and a huge suitcase of donations from our church. Then two more suitcases with a mix of our stuff. So far so good.

Today is yet another run to Target...gotta get the cipro filled, and see if the car seat we are waiting for is in yet! And maybe a few more of those adorable travel size deoderants...oh yay, I need some sleep!

Notice the ticker today??? Trip agenda too!

2008-08-27T08:01:00.003-05:00

2 weeks until take-off. OMG!!! I am feeling like I am living in the twilight zone right now. It is all still so surreal! Two weeks from now, I will be having breakfast at my in-laws, getting ready to board a plane for a true life changing experience. Here is a little more about our trip:

We fly out of Mpls at 1:15 and arrive in DC at 4:45. It looks like several of the families we will share the week with are on the Ethiopian Air flight so that should be fun! Anyway, John and Melanie are going to meet us at our gate and then we are going to grab our last American Meal, then board the plane to Addis. We have a fuel stop in Rome, then continue on to Addis, arriving at about 7pm Addis time (8 hrs ahead of CT). We will be met at the airport by a rep from the agancy. Once we purchase our Visa's and get our luggage, it is off to the care center. We are staying in the smaller more traditional of the two guest houses. I guess there are 3 families total in this house and we walk to the other house for meals etc. Thursday night we attempt to sleep and get ready to meet Miss Sunshine.

Friday moring we have breakfast at the care center and then have a brief orientation at the main office, then head to the care center to meet Sunshine. They do not allow camera's in the care center, but they will video tape the first meeting for us. We get to spend about an hour with her and then return to the house for lunch. Then we get to go back and hang out with her for a bit longer in the afternoon.

Saturday, we spend the morning learning more about our sunshine. We will get time to hang out with her in the care center and love her up! After lunch, we have a chance to shop and exchange our $$. We have the option of going to a hotel buffet at the Crown Hotel. At this point we are thinking of skipping that event as the next moring is really early..we'll see how it goes.

Sunday we get up at 5am and travel south of Addis to Hosanna to meet sunshines birth family. We are hopeful we will meet her father. We spend 3-4 hours in Hosanna, seeing the orphanage she came into intitally, meeting family and experiencing a different part of the country. Then we board our bus and return to Addis. We will not see sunshine this day.

Monday we get to go back to our girl and I think bring her back to the guest house for a while. The afternoon on Monday we see some of the humanitarian projects in the area as well as a museum.

Tuesday Sunshine is all ours! There is a going away ceremony in the morning and then we have our Embassy appointment in the afternoon. After that, she is in our care forever. YEAH!!!

Wed and Thursday are spent in the guest house, getting to know our girl and settling into the routines of parenting a baby again. Thursday we leave for the airport arounsupper time for our 10pm flight home. We arrive in DC on Friday am at about 9am and go through immigration and customs. Then we hang out in the airport....until our flight home at 5:15. It will be a very long day of traveling, but we will finally have Miss SUnshine...so it won't matter!

We return to the Mlps airport about 7pm. We welcome friends to meet us at the airport, but know that we won't be passing sunshine around and the main focus will be uniting our whole family. We will most likely be rather strung out and loopy as well.

So now that I have typed all that, I am so excited I can hardly sit still. It is going to be here in the blink of an eye! Yipee!!

Friday

Ouch!

2008-08-26T09:26:00.003-05:00

So little man took a horrible spill last night. I was sitting in the dining room, working on adoption paperwork (imagine that) when I heard the B man crying. His oldest brother was sitting next to me and said, oh he sounds mad...but the mama in me knew he was sounding hurt, not mad. Sure enough, after tripping on a floppy croc, he skidded along the street, head and nose first. He was quite a mess. Today he is sporting a very nice goose-egg, with a huge raw patch, as well as a huge skid mark down his nose. Last night he didn't want to look at it, so this am when he finally looked in the mirror, he was pretty shocked! His comment was he looked like humpty dumpty. And wouldn't you know school pictures are next week. Oh well, it will be one to remember! He is getting a lot of milage out of it...and was pretty convinced that since it still hurt this am, he should really have a cookie for breakfast. Not sure I see the correlation, but you can't fault him for trying! Once I find the camera, I will share his owie with all of you. In the mean time I am going to enjoy the extra snuggles he wants this am...and be thankful it wasn't a lot worse!

Lovin Michelle Obama!

2008-08-26T09:22:00.002-05:00

Don't know if you had a chance to hear her speech last night. If not, you really missed out. She was amazing. To think we could have a first lady that dynamic, committed, eloquent and beautiful is wonderful to hope! And what a wonderful role model for my daughter, and daughters the world over. She is the Jackie O of our time, but I think could have an even greater impact on this country. It is going to be an exciting fall...there is finally something full of hope and change in politics in this country!

Muddling around in my mind

2008-08-25T17:49:00.002-05:00

We are getting really close. So close, I can almost feel it. So now my mind is finally starting to wrap itself around the enormity of all we are doing, all we will see, all we will experience and I am scared. I am not scared about getting there, or having a baby again, or leaving the boys. I am not scared about our accommodations, the food we will eat, or having packed the right things. I AM scared about how this trip will affect me to my core. I am scared that I will fall in love with Africa, and want to do so much more, but not be able to. I am scared that I may feel called to something greater, but not know how get there .

I am a very passionate person and I know myself well enough to know that this journey will shake me to my core, and that at that core is something so precious and wonderful and fragile, that I will want to take it and grow it and nurture it, right then..but I have to face the reality that I have to return to my life. I fear that returning to my life of material things, my boutique, my rambling old house, my mundane day to day, isn't going to be enough. I know there will be more to do. How do I get there? I am pretty locked into this life I have created thus far, but I can look back and see the roads I have traveled to get where I am and I know that this particular journey brings with it so much more. God's got a great plan in all of this, and I am scared, scared that I will want to jump, scared I won't be able to jump, and believing at my very core that I have more to do...this journey is just the beginning...but where do I go from here? Can a single trip to Africa really change my whole life? I think it can, I think it will, I am scared, I am excited, and I am ready.

Plum tuckered out!

2008-08-24T16:26:00.002-05:00

Yieks. It is already Sunday afternoon and I haven't gotten my list accomplished and frankly, all I really want to do right now is take a nap. Alas, I don't think that is going to happen, unless I fall asleep mid-task, which is a possibility. I have made great progress on laundry, and I did get some of J's room cleaned (oh my is he a pack-rat!) I got the donations letter done for church this am, I worked yesterday, and you can see the dining room table...so all in all, I guess I was productive. The week ahead is full. E heads back to school in the am, so I am trying to figure out all the jobs I can get done without his assistance! And the countdown is getting down-right small. Wow. It is the last week of summer...time to enjoy it all.

3 weekends

2008-08-23T07:18:00.003-05:00

That is all we have left until we leave. This morning I woke up to a full bed. The 8 year old came in about 3 am with a nightmare, the 5 yr old came in about 5 am because he was cold. I think the cat was there all night, and I know the dog joined the pile at about 6:30...pretty sure hubby was there all night, but I couldn't really see him through the crowd. As I was laying there awake, my mind spinning with the to-do list for today, I looked over at the sleeping profiles of those I love the most and imagined Miss Sunshine sandwiched in-between all of us and I couldn't help but smile. It was a fitting image. We have a very full life, just like my very full bed, but it seems we can always always fit in the most important things. It won't always be comfortable or easy, but there is always room for more love, more snuggles, and if you wiggle, a little more room in mom and dad's bed!

The list of what to conquer is pretty long today and tomorrow. We'll see how far we get. E heads back on Monday, so it is kind of now or never for a few projects. By the end of the weekend we hope to have the trim painted in the back porch, a new screen door installed, the 10 year olds room cleaned (that could take a life time!) the garage clean enough to actually park a car in, a few pieces of furniture moved around, and about 8 loads of laundry done and put away. Not to mention I have to work this aft, we sing with the worship band on Sunday, and E needs to spend some quality time with his classroom. Yieks...I think I am tired already! But it is a joyous tired. We are getting soo close to so many wonderful things...

Okay, now that I am having a slight panic attack about the above list, I am logging off and getting my rear in gear!!

Grab the Kleenex

2008-08-21T16:09:00.002-05:00

Okay, so I am an emotional bundle these days...doesn't take much to start the water works. And since it is always more fun to share in the tears, I thought I would share with you the "tracks of my tears" these are happy, bittersweet, joyful mommy tears! If ya don't want to join in, then stop reading NOW!

1. Imagining the moment I leave B at the kindergarten door, and have a whole week ahead of me with three in school, none with me.

2. Figuring out how to say goodbye to the boys when we leave to travel. Kissing their sweet heads, breathing deeply enough to carry their smell with me to Africa and back.

3. Arriving at the airport in Dulles, meeting Mel and John, our journey mates, and having it hit me that we really are going!

4. Landing on the ground in Addis

5. Finally smelling Africa

6. The moment we ascend the steps to the care center and walk into the room to meet our daughter. Then finally we can hold her, smell her, kiss her, make her smile, and hear her voice.

7. Meeting sunshine's family in Hosanna, and the moment we connect in our love for this child.

8. Saying goodbye to the nannies who have loved and nourished her for the past 4 months.

9. Leaving Africa, our daughter's home, but being ready to be home.

10. 8 hours in the Dulles airport (these are tears of fear!!)

11. Arriving home in MN, coming down the escalator in baggage check and FINALLY having my family all together! Holding all of them
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12. Seeing J, Z, B loving on their long awaited sister

SO as you can see, it just takes a momentary ride down the ole imagination trail to get the tears flowing. Happy tears...dreaming tears...mommy tears.

Three Weeks

2008-08-20T15:50:00.002-05:00

Three weeks from right now, we will be touching down in DC, ready to meet up with friends for supper, then on the overnight flight to ET. Wow. Only 3 weeks left. A year ago right now, I was anxiously awaiting the paperwork for our dossier. I was nervous and excited and predicting that we would travel to get our daughter in the spring. And now, here it is, fall again, and once again I am nervous and excited, but now my daughter has a face and a name. She has things all over our house that are just hers. I have laundry that is hers, I have a suitcase full of things for her...and "her "is a real live little person, who has no idea what the next month has in store for her!

The next 3 weeks are going to fly by. I feel like every moment of everyday is so very precious. I feel like I have to pack it all in, get it all done, before our lives shift so dramatically. I can't wait.

I was reflecting on the summer today. Emotionally, it was a really hard summer. This journey really took it out of me. Mother guilt was really creeping in until the boys and I were talking about the plan for the next few weeks. Z said, "wow, we really got spoiled this summer! It was the best!" I asked him to tell me more...he rambled off all the fun things of the summer...bonfires, dinners with the neighbors, boating, the lake, house projects, grandparent time, I was so relieved! No need to feel guilty for not providing much of a wow factor for the summer...they had a great time, and they are ready to start this new chapter.

Packing Mayhem

2008-08-19T21:17:00.002-05:00

Holy Moly packing for a child you have never seen and you don't know that much about is pretty crazy. I have, in the last few days, spent far too many hours at Target, wandering the isles trying to figure out bottles, bottle liners, fast flow nipples, pacifiers, formula etc, etc,etc. You would think I was a first time mother....I have raised 3 children...this shouldn't be so hard. I have most of Sunshine's stuff packed and I have most of my stuff mentally pulled together. Not so sure hubby has thought about packing yet...but he does have 3 weeks, so I think he is okay.

The boys are getting excited for school and they all got the teachers that they wanted. E goes back on Monday, the reality of the school year will set in soon! I am ready for everyone to get back into their groove!

The kids have been gone the last two days so I have gotten soo much done. It has been great nesting time. However on that note, they will be back soon and I think I best finish up a few loose ends...stay tuned...the ride is getting more exciting every day!

A very happy baby shower!

2008-08-18T08:28:00.004-05:00

Saturday, my friends had a baby shower for Sunshine. It was so much fun. My neighbor across the street hosted the luncheon. As I came downstairs in the morning, I looked across and she had pink and white balloons tied to the mail box. That started the water works right then! It just felt so good to finally be able to celebrate the end of this journey! The luncheon was wonderful...beautiful china, yummy food, flowers, great friends, and fun gifts. It was perfect.

A beautiful table, yummy, yummy food!
Mother and Daughter...ready to add another generation!The brothers...so ready for sissy to come home!

Sometimes you just have to say...

2008-08-15T20:23:00.003-05:00

Wow. I think I am still in shock that this is really going to happen. I got a note from my friend Mel who we are traveling with and she found out that we are going to be rooming next door to each other. It just keeps getting better. Another family who just returned has posted lots of pictures and a video or two. It is amazing to think that will be us in just a few short weeks.

Tomorrow is the baby shower for Meron. I am looking forward to celebrating her with complete certainty that she is ours and we are hers and we will be together soon. I have started a notebook of lists, I made her first DR appointment today, I am finally able to do mommy things for her! I have a list of things to pack for her, and can't wait to see what she gloms on to as her favorite. We got our first baby bottles last night and I just about broke into tears. It is really going to happen.

I will be sure to post some pics of the shower and the goodies tomorrow. I can't wait!

Leaving On A Jet Plane

2008-08-14T10:33:00.002-05:00

We are bound for Africa on September 10th! Yep, just 27 short days from now! YAY!!!! We have our tickets booked and can't wait to get going. It looks like we will have a long time to enjoy Dulles Airport! We leave here at 1:15pm on the 10th, arriving in Dulles at 4:44 pm, we can't wait to meet up with great friends Melanie and John, grab a great meal, then hop the flight to Addis at 8:30pm. We arrive at 7pm Thursday night. Coming back we arrive in DC at 8:55am and don't leave until 5:15...could be a very long day of waiting...but we are waiting pros now. SO, now starts the packing, the list making, and the merry making! Can't wait!

It is really going to happen!

2008-08-13T21:11:00.002-05:00

I am really going to go and get my daughter in Africa. It really is going to happen. I am finally letting myself truly relax and just enjoy this time. I am savoring the moments of packing, list making, and imagining. I am letting my mind go to those moments: seeing her for the first time, smelling her, touching her, seeing her play and smile, holding her as she falls asleep, loving her through her adjustment, giving her a bottle, rubbing her bald little head, giving her her first doll, so many moments filled with so much joy, it just bubbles over. I could get really keyed up about packing, worrying about travel to a foreign country, worrying about leaving the kids...but I don't want to waste another moment worrying...there has been more than enough of that this journey, now is the time LIVE this most amazing miracle. To open my heart up to it's core, and let all that is to come fill me up.

God Is Good

2008-08-12T22:09:00.003-05:00

So I am on the phone talking to a rep at the shop. The other line clicks in and I let it go to voice mail. Then the other line clicks again, and I know this is the click that means it is prob home calling and I better grab it. I left my rep hanging for a minute and clicked over to the sweet voice of my hubby, telling me to "Shut up, and open your email" and there, staring at me was a new picture and a picture perfect birth certificate. WOW. We are almost there. Thank you God.
You can really see the extra pounds in those cheeks. She looks far to sad to me however...mama needs to get there and shower some kisses on those cheeks. But oh my, she is beautiful! More news to come tomorrow we think!

Growing Boys or Nesting...you decide!

2008-08-11T09:32:00.002-05:00

So yesterday I set out and conquered the boys closets! Three large bags worth of items to donate, and everyone has clothes in their drawers that actually fit! And in a moment of sheer cosmic bliss, I was actually able to take things from one closet, and move them down to the next and so on. It was great! I would love to say that we planned it and when we had all these boys, we spaced them just so, so that hand me downs would fit every year...this is the first year it worked and what great timing. Thankfully it looks like other than a few pairs of jeans and tennis shoes, shopping this year can be minimal!

Then I hit our room. We have a HUGE bedroom, far bigger than any bedroom needs to be. It ends up being the upstairs playroom...so, it is was full of random legos, Playstation controls, discarded magazines, granola bar wrappers, and laundry that hadn't found it's way to it's proper home. So while watching the amazing Men's 400 meter relay, I armed myself with the vacuum, a large trash bag and some muscle. It's almost done, and lets just say...oh yuck. But it is getting better. Today I will finish that, attack the 10 year olds collection of treasures in his room, and see what else I can find. Nesting? or Fall? You be the judge!

We hope to have news by Wednesday of this week...then we can really kick it into high gear. Bring it on!

No BC's yet

2008-08-09T07:45:00.002-05:00

So the word was that the letter that needs to get sent before the BC's can arrive did come, but the BC's are not coming until next week. I broke down and called my specialist and we had a very good conversation. She is very hopeful that we will see some action next week, so i am choosing to be hopeful.

I am at my parents (sans my fam) for the weekend. We have SKYPE'd with baby Seattle and had fun eating good food and hanging out. Sometimes it is nice to revert to your childhood and be the little girl again!

Probably won't post again until next week, when hopefully there is great news to share.

No birth certificates today

2008-08-07T19:02:00.002-05:00

Got an email from our specialist. No birth certificates today. Please say a prayer for tomorrow. I am not sure how I will go another weekend with out news.

Update

2008-08-07T09:52:00.002-05:00

We got a medical update today. The bad news was Sunshine had tonsilitis with a high fever which sparked 2 more seizures back in July. The good news is she is doing well now, was seen by the neurologist who said she is thriving and the report is she is in great health and very playful.

According to all trends and predictions, we should see that BC today. I am kinda a wreck. That pit in my stomach feeling just won't go away. Life feels as though it is spinning quickly out of control and I am a control freak, so this is not good.

On a happy note, my new nephew is absolutely precious...I am going to focus on his picture all day and hope it takes my mind off this wait. (or atleast I can try!)

Welcome to the World Jackson!

2008-08-06T20:36:00.002-05:00

There was great news in the world today. I am a new aunt. Jackson (baby seattle) arrived this evening. My baby brother is a daddy...wow, that is pretty awesome! And his most beautiful wife is a rock star...enduring labor and a c-section! Congrats new mama and daddy, and just so you know, the most obnoxious, loud, bright, many parted toy is on it's way (just kidding, but I warned you, pay back will be sweet!)

Tonight we all go to sleep happy.

Still No News

2008-08-06T13:35:00.002-05:00

At least not here...

might be some elsewhere....

tomorrow has to be the day, right?

Get to sing with the praise band at church tonight, that will be good.

Need to clean the house

Want that email.

Miss my girl.

Where oh where is that da*% BC?

2008-08-05T12:24:00.002-05:00

Okay, so the patience I mustered for the first half of the day is now all used up. Logically, I know not to expect news of the BC before tomorrow at the earliest. But really, how much longer do I have to wait??? I must have me some bad Karma...this waiting just goes on and on. No one else on our agency forum has gotten one yet this week, so I can at least rest assured knowing that others with my court date aren't jumping ahead of me in the que. I just wish we had some idea of how this works. Does our agency have us penciled in for a travel date? Do they really just wait to see when that BC comes in and then put our names on a wall and throw darts to see when we travel? I am beginning to think it might be this way. I just want to know how much more patience I need to find.

UGH!

Chubby Monkey

2008-08-04T16:32:00.002-05:00

So baby girl is growing!! We got a growth report today. She is up to almost 17 lbs and 26 1/2 inches. Her head also grew 1 cm. I am soo excited to know that she continues to grow. She has had nice steady weight gain since coming in to care. Yay!

I am still holding out hope for that birth certificate on Thursday. I am hoping we get that and my brother's little one finally decides to come into the world. A banner day all around I think! Wouldn't that be wonderful. I am also really selfishly hoping to travel with the Sept 10th group. My dear friend and her hubby are traveling then and it would make an already amazing trip about 100x more amazing...so if we are going to be picky pray-ers we are asking for the BC this week and a travel date of Sept 10. That would be perfect. (and for baby seattle to make his entrance soon!) So pray away!!!

It's Time

2008-08-03T16:35:00.002-05:00

It is time for good news. It is time for that birth certificate, it is time for the travel date, it is time for an update on Miss Sunshine. It is time for the store to have a great week, it is time for my nephew to be born ( :) ) It's August, it is time and it needs to be a week full of good news!

:)

Saturday

2008-08-02T19:39:00.002-05:00

Well, I finally heard from my specialist this am. No news really, except to say that my travel date hinges on the birth certificate and that they hope to see that soon. I hope her soon and my soon are the same. I just laid out the calendar for August. The first two weeks are really busy so that is good. Then it is going to be slow going for a week or two. Hopefully after that, we will be busy with school and packing.

I don't want to wish away the month of August. It is the last time we will be a family of 5. And yet, I look at the calendar with all of those weeks staring at me and it seems like an eternity. So I am going to try and relish the days we have, try and have some free fun together with my boys. I think a date day with each of them is in the plans.

I have a ton of work to do for the shop. The next few months will be very telling. My lease is up in Jan and I have to see where we are going...profit or sinking ship. So my goal for the week is to get a better grip on where that ship is sailing. That may help my stress level or send me completely over the edge. Time will tell.

So, not in a much better place, but as I type, I am eating home-made cookie dough and it is a great balm!